(Closed) Enough with the long engagements, where are my other quick engagement brides?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@maureen9004: I hear you!  I planned our wedding in four months while I was working 60 hours a week and FH was working 80 hours a week- almost impossible to meet with priest or vendors together.  I also was set to close on my first house and he proposed a few days before that, so I was also moving in and trying to get the house set up.  Then one of my work partners became seriously ill, so I was doing a job and a half.  It was awful.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We did things very quickly. DH moved to FL at the end of June- we started talking beginning of July, dating first week of August, Engaged mid January, Married July 3rd (exactly 1 month 1 day before our 1 yr dating anniversary) and we’ve been expecting since August. Sometimes when you know you just know and its not worth waiting. Not to mention we also had some extreme circumstances (living together after 2 weeks, conservative parents, ill family members, etc) that just made sense to move things along quickly.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

Ours will be just a couple days short of being eight months. We knew our jobs were ending some time in September or sooner, so we wanted to wait until that was finished. Then Jim decided he wanted to do a ton of work on the outside of the house, otherwise we’d probably already be married.

I had originally said I didn’t care how long the engagement was, but Jim was ready to get married and didn’t want a long engagement. That acutally surprised me.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I just want to make it clear that people who have long engagements don’t usually do so because they aren’t like, certain they want to marry their Fiance, or because they WANT to wait, or something of the sort.  It’s usually just because there are various circumstances getting in the way of an earlier wedding date.  The only reason people often cite for WANTING to wait is that they want to wait till they graduate from college–which just makes sense; it’s hard to stay focused on your studies and plan a wedding. 

Just wanted to speak up on behalf of all the others having long engagements…our relationships aren’t defective or wishy-washy.  We really, really want to marry our partners.  There are just other things getting in the way.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

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@veganglam:  I don’t think anyone was saying there was anything wrong with waiting. I this thread was started just to highlight reasons for not waiting, because we don’t hear those reasons as often as the reasons for waiting.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Loribeth: I definitely thought a lot of the “when you know, you know…why wait?!” sorts of stuff in the thread was implicitly saying that those who had long engagements must be wishy-washy about their relationship or unprepared for marriage in some way.  I totally wish I could have had a short engagement–lord knows I am sick of changing my mind about EVERYTHING re: my wedding, and I just want to be married to my awesome man.  It just hasn’t worked out to allow us to get it done any faster.  I am definitely pro-short engagement…dwelling on wedding stuff for such a long time is the most frustrating thing.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If Boyfriend or Best Friend gets his butt into gear and proposes this month like I think he will then we will have an 8 month engagement (wedding July 2011)!!! Which we both think is a nice length!

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We were engaged for 3 months. It was just enough time to get everything I wanted to get done done (with a lot of help from family and friends) and make myself a little crazy but not as crazy as I think I would have if I had had more time to stress over everything. I didn’t have time to stress over every tiny detail, I just did it.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

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@veganglam: I hope that my saying that didn’t offend you, but I was talking about it from a personal standpoint and not that couple’s who have long engagements aren’t certain about marrying each other No way would I mean to imply that. I just meant that at our age, we did know right away and we didn’t believe that it made sense for us to wait. If we had any other circumstances such as school or work or family commitments/issues or a lot of out of towners to deal with, it may have been different. I understand why some couples have long engagements, and I would never question anyone else’s timeframe of wedding planning. I was only talking about us, not in general. It was an innocent comment, please don’t read anything else into it.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Your not alone!  We were engaged for six months before we got married.  I was hoping for a fall wedding in Sept, but we ended up getting married this past May. 

We primarily got married earilier since when we got engaged we had just purchased a house and wanted to start our lives in it as husband and wife as soon as possible.  a short engagement was definitely a great decision on my hubby’s part. 

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We had a year-long engagement, but that was only because I really wanted to get married in June. We got engaged at the end of May, but I didn’t even start thinking about the wedding until September, so I think of it as more of a 9-month engagement. Then I also took December, January, and February off from planning…so I had about 6 months where I was actually actively planning.

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My honey and I got engaged 1yr after dating, 6 months later we’ll be married! So exactly 1.5 yrs total….! So excited yet a bit stressfull…. Good luck bee!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

WE got engaged in Oct and married in a July, a 9 month engagement that i thought was long. There were days i thought about bumping it up!! I couldnt do any longer! 🙂

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Our engagement will be 7 and a half months total.  For us, that is more than enough time to plan.  I am an inherently impatient person and there’s no way in hell I’d be able to wait 1+ years to get married.  Just wouldn’t happen.  Hell, I’ve got 90% of the wedding already planned and still have 5 months to go! I honestly don’t get why people think they need 1+ years to plan a wedding (I’m not talking about people who wait for reasons such as school, finances, ect.  I’m talking about people who think they actually need that long just to plan.  That I don’t get.)

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