- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
We did things very quickly. DH moved to FL at the end of June- we started talking beginning of July, dating first week of August, Engaged mid January, Married July 3rd (exactly 1 month 1 day before our 1 yr dating anniversary) and we’ve been expecting since August. Sometimes when you know you just know and its not worth waiting. Not to mention we also had some extreme circumstances (living together after 2 weeks, conservative parents, ill family members, etc) that just made sense to move things along quickly.
Ours will be just a couple days short of being eight months. We knew our jobs were ending some time in September or sooner, so we wanted to wait until that was finished. Then Jim decided he wanted to do a ton of work on the outside of the house, otherwise we’d probably already be married.
I had originally said I didn’t care how long the engagement was, but Jim was ready to get married and didn’t want a long engagement. That acutally surprised me.
I just want to make it clear that people who have long engagements don’t usually do so because they aren’t like, certain they want to marry their Fiance, or because they WANT to wait, or something of the sort. It’s usually just because there are various circumstances getting in the way of an earlier wedding date. The only reason people often cite for WANTING to wait is that they want to wait till they graduate from college–which just makes sense; it’s hard to stay focused on your studies and plan a wedding.
Just wanted to speak up on behalf of all the others having long engagements…our relationships aren’t defective or wishy-washy. We really, really want to marry our partners. There are just other things getting in the way.
If Boyfriend or Best Friend gets his butt into gear and proposes this month like I think he will then we will have an 8 month engagement (wedding July 2011)!!! Which we both think is a nice length!
Sometimes those other threads make me feel defensive because it seems that it’s assumed a shorter engagement means some of us are rushing into marriage or throwing a wedding together at the last minute, which just isn’t true at all.
We were engaged for 3 months. It was just enough time to get everything I wanted to get done done (with a lot of help from family and friends) and make myself a little crazy but not as crazy as I think I would have if I had had more time to stress over everything. I didn’t have time to stress over every tiny detail, I just did it.
Your not alone! We were engaged for six months before we got married. I was hoping for a fall wedding in Sept, but we ended up getting married this past May.
We primarily got married earilier since when we got engaged we had just purchased a house and wanted to start our lives in it as husband and wife as soon as possible. a short engagement was definitely a great decision on my hubby’s part.
We had a year-long engagement, but that was only because I really wanted to get married in June. We got engaged at the end of May, but I didn’t even start thinking about the wedding until September, so I think of it as more of a 9-month engagement. Then I also took December, January, and February off from planning…so I had about 6 months where I was actually actively planning.
My honey and I got engaged 1yr after dating, 6 months later we’ll be married! So exactly 1.5 yrs total….! So excited yet a bit stressfull…. Good luck bee!
WE got engaged in Oct and married in a July, a 9 month engagement that i thought was long. There were days i thought about bumping it up!! I couldnt do any longer! 🙂
Our engagement will be 7 and a half months total. For us, that is more than enough time to plan. I am an inherently impatient person and there’s no way in hell I’d be able to wait 1+ years to get married. Just wouldn’t happen. Hell, I’ve got 90% of the wedding already planned and still have 5 months to go! I honestly don’t get why people think they need 1+ years to plan a wedding (I’m not talking about people who wait for reasons such as school, finances, ect. I’m talking about people who think they actually need that long just to plan. That I don’t get.)
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