(Closed) Entering the big girl world for the first time….

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why don’t you start taking on some responsibilities and start putting together a “married” budget now so that you feel a little more in control and a little less in the dark?

The more prepared you are the better off you will be!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It sounds like you have a good relationship with your parents. Why not sit down with the one who pays the bills and ask them to show you their system? If it works, maybe you can copy it.

Post # 6
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4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Definitely sit down and work out a budget. This should definitely help ease some of your anxiety because it’ll feel like you have a plan. 🙂

Post # 7
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Can you ask your parents if they can show you their system?  Maybe they can give you some pointers.  One of my tricks is that I use web bill pay for all of my bills.  It is attached to my checking account.  So I can see my balance, and how much I will owe, then I can pay the bills.  It also helps so that I don’t forget to pay any of them.

Post # 8
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am in the exact same situation as you, and I am super nervous. Sometimes I get a little overwhelmed, but I have confidence that everything will work out for the best.

I guess I have no real advice to give. Just know you can do it and be fine! If you ever need to just talk about things, feel free to message me.

Post # 9
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651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I felt the same way when I moved out, but I’ve been able to keep track of everything online.  Mint.com is great once you get it all set up so you can track your spending and know what bills have been paid for the month and what bills are coming.  Also a good way to see where all your money goes and see where you can cut back, etc.

Post # 10
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

why will it all fall on your shoulders?  You and your husband should figure out your finances and pay your bills together!

Post # 11
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Been there! Definitely sit down with the parent who handles finances (or both if they both do) and get a little crash course. You’ll be much better off going into it knowing what to expect and having some sort of system. Don’t wait until you’re actually responsible for everything to figure it all out.

Post # 12
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Also realize you are not alone! First and foremost, you and your Fiance are in it together! Second… it sounds like your family is super supportive and would totally help you out with organization etc if you needed it. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

🙂  I can tell you what surprised me when I went out into the big girl world – it’s not that hard.  Seriously, from what you’ve said of your life, it’s going to be a disapointment how little change it is and how easy this thing that people make a big deal out of is.  It’s like with cooking – yes cooking well is difficult and a skill but just feeding yourself so you don’t starve? – not that hard despite what my grandma threatened.  🙂

Post # 16
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

From what you described, you’re more than ready to handle household finances.  Mint.com is a great resource for monthly budgeting and tracking expenditures.

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