Post # 1
We’re getting ready to send out our Save The Dates.
1. We are inviting a couple who does not live together.
2. I’m aware that “social units” are normally invited together under one invitation.
HOWEVER. There’s a big part of me that wants to send our friends separate invitations so that they each get an STD refrigerator magnet (practically speaking).
Should I send an STD to each of them (knowing that they would obviously know that their bf/gf is also invited)?
Or should I stick with one STD, address with both their names on the envelope, and pick on of them to send it to? If so, how do we pick which one of them to mail it to(because we have been friends with both of them, independent of each other, equally for a long time… it’s not like we talk to one more than the other)?
Post # 3
I would send them both an invitation 🙂
Post # 4
Send one to each of them! Especially if you have been friends with them independently for a long time.
It’ll be good so they can keep it on their fridge/in their sights as a reminder! I say this because I’m usually bad at remembering exact dates so that would help me haha
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Each adult that is not engaged or married to another adult should get his/her own invitation, so actually you should send both people in a couple not living together their own invitation (and STD). Many don’t bother, but this is the most etiquette-conscious choice.
Post # 6
Formal traditional etiquette actually requires that, while both members of a social unit must be invited, the invitations must be sent to each guest in his or her own name, at his or her own address — exactly as you are proposing.
While you are quite right that brides often send a single invitation to couples who live separately, those brides are usually compromising their manners to save themselves the cost or the effort of one extra invitation. Yours is the more gracious choice.
Post # 7
I’d stick two in one envelope!