Post # 1
So, my fiance and I are inviting our old high school friend to our wedding, fiance was best friends with him since middle school, I’ve known him since middle school, became better friends in high school when fiance and I started dating. Long story short, we are closer with his parents now than him- they were all invited to our engagement party – only his parents came for some reason (that’s just the type of guy he is). We don’t really care to invite him to the wedding, and I really don’t want to send him his own invitation. How can we address the envelope so that they know he can come if he wants?
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family?
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
John Smith’s son??
I know the proper etiquette is for him to have his own invite, but I DIYed them, they were kinda expensive, and I’m kinda short – so I don’t want to send his own…any way I can get around it?!
Post # 3
Its not proper etiquette but I am sending invites to my cousins over 18 who still live at home (or some who don’t lol) with their parents. This is largely because it was such a PITA to get their addresses. I don’t think any of these cousins would be offended, but they are family.
I think in this case with your friend you really should send him his own invite.
Post # 4
Anyone over 18 definitely needs to be invited as an adult (i.e. named separately, not included as “Family” on the parents’ invite); he also should be invited with a plus one, unless you have scrapped all plus ones for your wedding. If you are truly short on invitations, you could maybe address them on the same envelope as:
Mr & Mrs John SmithMr John Smith’s Son and Date
Not perfect but just a suggestion!
EDIT: I’m a bit confused – is he living at home with his parents? If not, he definitely needs his own invitation sent to his address. If so, I think you can get away with the option of naming them on the same invite.
Post # 5
I’d send them their own invite as they are adults and deserve their own.
Post # 6
Oh, sorry! i thought I added that in. Yes, he lives with his parents. We haven’t talked to him in years, so I was just hoping to get away with it as a “Sure you can come if you want” type thing.
Post # 7
@chickeybarr: If you are close enough with his parents to talk to them verbally, I would just send the invite to the parents and then let them know their son is welcome to attend if he wants. We are doing this for the many friends of our parents who have kids our age. We are not close to the kids but they are welcome if they’ll be in the area. The parents are being invited as our parents’ guests, so our parents are going to let them know they can bring their adult children if they want to come.