(Closed) Epidural Comments – "You won't be able to do it!"

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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Daizy914:  Why people think it is any of their business how you plan to give birth (and then have an opinion about it) is beyond me. I had all my care at a birth center with midwives, so my only option there (unless something went wrong) was an unmedicated “natural” birth. It was very hard and it was obviously painful but if/when we have a second kid I will more than likely have another natural birth. Although if you’d asked me right after I would’ve said hell to the no, give me an epidural next time hahaha. I do recommend taking a birth class or hypnobirth class so you know what to expect and have other tactics for pain managment. My husband and I found the hpynobirth class a little hokey, but it DID end up helping me (we took a regular birth class as well, which also helped a lot.) Best of luck to you! I was due in July of 2014 🙂

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you need to learn to start ignoring people. I hate people’s unsolicited comments and opinions but, unfortunately, people will ALWAYS have them. I notice you let what others say bother you. I feel like it’s even worse in our area where people are very blunt and outspoken. 

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Daizy914:  wait until you have the baby and you hear everyone’s opinions on how to be a mom. Lol

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m due in May and I get it all the time. When I say I want to go natural almost everyone replies “you’ll want the epidural” or “you have no idea. you want drugs” I just let them say it. My husband and I know what we want, what were open to, etc, and we’ll handle it the day of.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I also thought about this option.  I haven’t really discussed it with anyone yet, but I have a pretty high pain tolerance.  I don’t mind needles at all, but I don’t like the idea of not being able to move!  I can’t walk or turn or feel my legs.  I was researching walking edipural, just to take the edge off.  It also depends on the labor.  I know my mom was 24 hours.  Lots of women give natural births.  It’s your body.  Do what feels right, but have a backup plan.  Plus, you’ll never see the needle!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh, I don’t know why people feel it’s their business to even ask you this, much less tell you you can’t do it! Guess what — you CAN do it. Thousands (more?) of women do it every day. Getting an epidural is a choice that we have in the developed world. It’s not a necessity, and you can totally, totally, totally do it without one.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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Daizy914:  Definitely take a class or read some books or both! Then you will have an idea what to expect and will have visualized and have some ideas and tactics for how you want to do it. It’s just like preparing for a marathon or a big presentation at work or anything- you’ll probably do better if you aren’t just winging it, if that makes sense.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not sure why they think its their responsibility to judge your decisions. How rude! I’m hoping for a natural birth as well but luckily I live in an area of the US where it is totally normal to have a natural birth (or at least try for one). It has nothing to do with being a hero…birth is a natural event and epidurals can sometimes cause more harm then good (including prolonging labor) the beautiful thing about living in this country is we all get to make our own decisions…I’m not going to judge someone for an elective c section and I would hope they won’t judge me for trying for a natural birth.

Sorry…that turned into a mini rant. I hope you are able to ignore the comments you are getting. Im sure you are a strong woman and you will be able to make it through birth naturally!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I usually am surprised when someone tells me that they are not going to get an epidural, and I’ve never had kids yet. I don’t mean it maliciously at all, I’m just genuinely shocked. 

Like pp posters have said, someone will always have an opinion. Just shrug it off and try not to care what anyone thinks because at the end of the day, what they think or say doesn’t matter. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I’m not pregnant, but just wanted to say my mom had all three of her kids without any epidural! She said she saw the size of the needle and decided there was no way she was getting it — she was much happier going without it.

I figure if she went through one birth without an epidural and decided to repeat that twice more, it can’t be THAT bad. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

People seem to think that if you dont want to do something the way they do it, it’s somehow a personal insult to them. This goes both ways (natural birth mommas shaming epidurals/csections, and vice versa). Newsflash! Everyone is different and makes the best choice for them! It’s not a criticism of someone else’s choice. A women’s choice to breastfeed is not a slight to formula moms. 

Anyways, id just reply to these comments saying “I’ll take that under advisement, thanks” it really is no one’s business. I’d get into the habit of not talking parenting strategies to others because once that door is opened it’ll never close.

Btw, I think it’s awesome you’ve decided to aim for a birth experience that considers your total medical needs. I wish you a safe and happy birth no matter what happens. Dont let others getyou down

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