(Closed) Epidural Comments – "You won't be able to do it!"

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 91
2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

Daizy914:  Totally with you! FTM here. My birthing center won’t have any drugs anyway so I will have no choice and I think that helps me mentally. I’m planning to delay going in as much as possible by first labouring at home in the bath watching movies, then walking around, sitting in a park near the birthing center (it’ll be super warm day or night and there’s little rain in August when I’m due), then when I can’t bear it anymore I’ll check in and if I’m 5cm or more I’ll get straight into the pool until the end. Lights off/low with my ipod playing relaxing music and I’m going to do some hypobirthing visualisations and relaxation exercises. I know my body and I can do it and what I like about going drug-free is it’s instantly over and I look forward to the rush of hormones, like finishing a marathon. I’m ready to go natural!! You can do it too!!

Post # 92
1586 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Its obviously all up to you… but in my experience was that i wasnt opposed to getting it but wanted to wait as long as possible. I was totally expecting that i would get to a point where i would end up with it… but I didnt. 

I made it through my labor and delivery au natural! Labor was tough (im not gonna lie… i wish i could but i cant) but in my experience, once it was time to push, almost all pain went away. It was a very zen like experience. My labor was about 7ish hours and i would consider that one of tha main reasons i could do it drug free so i do not judge other women for asking for it. 

Do what is best for you in that moment… there is no wrong way.

If you have any questions feel free to pm me. 

Good luck

Post # 93
9 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015


MrsAKSkier:  Apologies to username confusion. You get one chance to change name. I didn’t like what was initially set up as.

You may not have stated as “this is fact” but it was clearly implied with “not necessarily”. In fact, in most cases, unmedicated IS faster and epidurals DO slow labor which is why pitocin is concurrently administered with them. You essentially argued a point which I was already correctly stating for the statistical average. There are always exceptions, birth is unpredictable but fear mongering is never helpful. I find positive encouragement to get better results for any situation. Not presenting the negatives. This is why I don’t answer the questions regarding “I’m worried about getting an epidural”. If I quoted accurate info it probably would worry them. Why bother. 

Post # 94
3009 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

MrsUnikorn:  Perhaps you should reread my comments. I still never said that epidurals do not slow labor. I never said my own experience was negative (especially if you read my birth story, which I posted last July). My labor and the birth of my baby was very hard, but I did it without an epidural and I said I would do it again, which I think IS encouraging. It is naive and would be detrimental for the OP to believe that since she is not choosing an epidural, her labor is guaranteed to be quick, just like in your case study of one, in which you are sure the quick labor was entirely due to not having an epidural. For example, in my birth class, we prepared for back labor by learning techniques to manage it, even though statistically it’s less likely to experience back labor. I did not feel that the instructor was “fear-mongering.”  That is “why bother.” I hope the OP has a quick, straightforward, awesome labor with 20 minutes of pushing, but labor is highly variable (with a huge range of “normal” or “average”) and if things end up a little more difficult than expected, she should know that she can still do it med-free if she wants to!  

Post # 96
2486 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

kes18:  I definitely think pitocin makes them worst! An induced contraction may not be stronger than a natural labor contraction would, but as you said- it makes you go from 0 to 100 much quicker than a natural labor does. So you are experiencing bad contractions the whole time instead of easing into it slowly. Of course, all patients are different, but that seems to be my experience. Patients on pitocin usually ask for epidurals faster than natural patients do.

Post # 97
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I very much did not want an epidural, and I labored for more than 24 hours without one, until I was so completely exhausted and in pain that I gave in. I will say that although I really dislike needles, at that point I would have willingly taken a hundred needles if necessary.  The epidural procedure was very quick and the relief was instantaneous, and I had no issues with my back afterwards.I will try again without it next time, but I really think the needle is the last thing you will be worried about! 

Post # 98
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pregnancy/birth/motherhood is such a judgemental time.  Idk why but any woman who has ever given birth thinks she knows the best way to do it.  My only advice is understand that you don’t know what will happen.  Be open to trying without, understanding things happen that you might not end up with the ‘birth you want’.  Every woman is different, just keep doing what you think is best and ignore all the others.

Post # 99
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Mine goes the opposite way. I decided before anything that I was absolutely going to have epidurals for all of my pregnancies. I’ve had lots of comments about how it’s not a ‘real birth’ and shit like that. Just brush it off.

Post # 100
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’m in the UK, the most common pain relief is Entonox (gas and air) – is that the one you can’t get in the States? Unbelievable. That might be why epidurals are rarer over here. Give me the gas any day, it was awesome. 

Anyway, OP – just smile and tell people you’re keeping an open mind. They don’t need to know. 

Post # 101
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would just tell people you haven’t made up your mind yet.  Like you I do have lower back issues and not feeling my legs freaked me out. Just realized that you may go to the hospital thinking one way and you may have to change you mind or plan and that’s okay.  My water broke at 33 weeks and 5 days the were trying to stop labor as long as they could but nothing could stop it. I did end up having a natural birth only with pain medication to take the edge off.  Then again my daughter was only 4lbs.  Wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy!!  

Post # 102
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Daizy914:  well I can tell you my experience. I actually was on the “give me the drugs as soon as I get there” camp and always had been. After getting pregnant I started to change my tune and I did want to try my best to go without for as long as I could handle it but if in the end I needed something then I wasnt going to beat myself up about it. I know some friends who were the same and due to super fast labors couldnt get the epi and they made it just fine….

So Long story short I wont lie… the pain was horrible. It wasnt like anything I could have previously imagined but I made it through quite a while and Im very proud of myself. When I got to the hospital I was already in transition and 8cm dilated. Unfortunatly the pain was overtaking me and there was no break in between contractions and my body was just super tense. I knew in my gut (something inside me just said I needed to relax) so I wanted the epi. They told me I was close but I ended up insisting for it. The anestisiologist was in emergency so I wasnt sure he would make it so I prepared myself mentally for the fact it might not happen even tho I was at my breaking point. 

He ended up showing up and I got the epi and for me it was the best thing that could have happened because as soon as it took effect my body just released and the rest of my waters came out and Dear Daughter dropped. I was in fact 10cm when I had it done lol…. they checked me right after so really I could have gone all the way….however there were some complications due to a cord wrapped around her neck and body in weird ways that ended up in some interventions…and I can say Im 100% glad I got it because well… lets say they had to be a bit rough in getting her out. I dont regret my decision and I guess the point Im trying to make is yes you can totally do it. I made it a hell of a lot father then I thought…. but DONT beat yourself up if you do decide to get it done in the moment. It really isnt that scary. I was also afraid of the whole going into the spine area, but it was relatively quick and not a big deal at all. My baby came out perfect and alert.

You can do it, but you need to prepare yourself for experiencing something that may just change your mind….I recommend having a safe word so when your in the moment and possibly saying “I want it I want it now” they will only take you seriously when you say it, and when you do you mean business! You also have to prepare yourself that sometimes its out of your hands….ie: I had a friend who did not want one at all and due to a 20 hour hard labor where she comepltely drained herself, it was either…”get the epi so you can rest because you wont be able to push when the time comes because your basically not close yet”, or end up with a c-section in x-time because its not moving along and there was meconium in the water. Im not saying that to be negative, Im just giving some perspective that I dont want you to mentally build up a certain birth experience in your mind when your labor is going to be…well….simply what it is and you have no control and cant know how things will go.


  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  shanbp.
Post # 103
1384 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

shanbp:  I think your comments are spot on. I’ve just delivered my second baby via “natural” delivery with just gas for pain relief and unmedicated labour is f***ing hard work but having also had one very medicated and long birth, both are perfectly valid options.

My first labour was thirty hours (failure to progress further than 5cm after 18 hours, pitocin, epidural, episiotomy and ventouse delivery), my second was twelve but I spent almost five hours going through transition (worst five hours of my life!) however each delivery had its pros and cons and I had very little control over how my body laboured.

OP – do your research and pick the options that work best for your family and situation but don’t ever feel any shame over the decisions you make and screw what anybody else thinks!!!

Post # 104
1002 posts
Bumble bee

My best friend was in labor for 4 DAYS, and eventually had to have a c-section.  She did not have an epidural (they put her under, because by the time the c-section rolled around it was far too late for an epidural).  It is absolutely possible to go through birth without an epidural.  Especially if you have prepared for it (which my friend actually did not do).  She did have myself, and two other friends there in the room with her, and one thing that she said really helped was that every time she had a contraction, one of us would push hard on her lower back (she was laying on her side for a lot of it, because they needed her in that position for the baby’s monitors) and that helped with the pain.  Because of the situation with her birth, she also wasn’t allowed to get up and walk around, because the baby was being monitored the whole time.

Post # 105
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I got 2 (it was through a catheter but wore off so they bumped it up) and some kind of booster thing they put in last minute and it all wore off by the time DS came out, 3 episiotomies and 20 stiches all with no epidural – you can do it!

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