Post # 62
I would like to avoid an epidural because of the interventions and problems that tend to follow after them. Not because I’m a big martyr for pain. I’m fine with trying other light pain relief methods natural and medicated that allow me to remain mobile and birth the kid in a way other than on my back.
Post # 63
As has been said before, birth choices don’t confer “gold stars” or make women better women or mothers. I really support women to make educated decisions about what is best for them. The key word there is “educated”.
Of all the women I run into, here and IRL, that say, “Give me the epidural” or “Have a dart gun at the front door of the hospital!” or “I was in labour 28 hours, of course I got an epidural”……of all these very common things that are said, I wonder how many of these women had real, detailed, informative discussions with their care providers ahead of time, or did their own research, about the risks and benefits of having an epidural or not (or any of the other comfort measures/pain management techniques in between).
Those women, the women who made a fully educated decision, are the ones that should get a gold star. One of my biggest fears and sadnesses about birth in North America today is that (almost) the moment some women pee on the stick, or even before(!), they’ve decided they want (or worse, “need”) and epidural. Epidurals absolutely confer benefits……they also carry very significant risks. I don’t feel confident that all women having epidurals today are aware of the risks and are making an informed decision.
Post # 64
I wasn’t allowed to have one and I really wish I could have. I had a long, terrible labor and delivery and it was a huge factor in my decision to not have any more children. Everyone I know who has had one has not regretted it. On the flip side, I also know women who have gone natural and felt great about their decison. I say go in with an open mind.
Post # 66
I planned on having one when I had my baby 3 weeks ago. I wanted to go as long as I could without it though, because I didnt want a cathater or not to be able to walk around. I chose to walk around, use the birthing ball, and just be up and about. The pain was not as bad as it was while laying in the bed. By the time I asked for the epi it was too late. I was at a 10 and baby was on her way out. My dr and nurse both told me to get one while I had the chance and I didn’t listen. If I ever do this again, I’ll be asking for epi as soon as I get pregnant. No need to go through that pain again. A