(Closed) Episiotomy or tearing?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

With my eldest I had an episiotomy. My oldest had pumpkin head so they gave me a choice…rip on both ends or cut me on one side. Guess which one I chose…lol. It only took a few weeks to heal. But I was always religous about my bathroom routine. I also had a sitz bath that I used several times a day. I didn’t have any problems with mine and yes I was afraid of opening hte stitches but I never had that problem. With my youngest I asked about an episiotomy and they told me they rarely perform them now as PP stated because it is more traumatic on the body. With my youngest I had skidmarks but no tears. I was still religious with my bathroom routines though and no sitz bath was needed this time.

Post # 18
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2005

I had an episiotomy with my first son and it took about 4 weeks to heal.  With my second son I tore just a little and it took about the same amount of time to heal. 

IMO I think it is rediculous that a doctor tries to tell you how big your baby is going to be.  It is nearly impossible to say if your baby will be 7lb or 10lb or if his head is going to be enormous. 

Just go as natural as you are comfortable with and relax.  Your body knows what to do.


Post # 19
1827 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My little girl is 13 days old and despite being 7 lbs 6 oz, she came out in one big push so I ended up with a second degree tear.  Tearing was my biggest fear in relation to labour and delivery but it honestly was not that big of a deal.  I had an epidural so I didn’t feel the tear, nor did I feel any of the stitches afterwards.   It was mildly sore but really only hurt when I laughed, sneezed, or coughed for the first few days.  It was also a bit of a challenge getting up from our very deep sofa but with my husband helping me up, things were a lot easier.  I also sat on pillows to provide an extra bit of cushioning which also helped.  

I didn’t take any pain meds, nor did I use a sitz bath or any other forms of relief.  I did use a stool softener for the first week and it meant that the first bowel movement was pain free.  I’ve felt great for the past week so I’d say the initial discomfort only lasts a few days.  The only time I ever really notice that there was so damage down there is when I’m taking our baby out for a walk – we live in a hilly neighbourhood so walking uphill puts a bit of pressure on the area and makes me aware of it, albeit not  in a painful manner.

Long story short – don’t be too freaked out.  All I had read were horror stories before having our little one and I was petrified, but it really ended up not being that big of a deal.  Good luck!  🙂 

Post # 20
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think this would be my worse fear during the whole labor and delivery process.  I can’t imagine tearing down there….lol.  I’m praying and hoping mine is minimal when my time comes in October.  Thanks for the info ladies.  Gives me some insight on what to expect.

Post # 21
2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@patientlywaiting20:  There are lots of tips above to help prevent it. In the end though, in most cases, it sounds worse than it actually is (unless very severe). I was SO scared of tearing too, and I could feel it a bit while it was happening, but when you’re in the moment of giving birth, it’s really not a huge deal. lol

Post # 22
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had an episiotomy. My son was stuck and wouldn’t come out because my hymen was still intact ( doctors words). So my option was to keep on pushing, and risk severe tearig, or a little cut. She cut me a couple inches and he came out instantly. It took about 4 weeks to recover.

I do not recomend looking into a hand mirror after, it might scare you. I actually started crying.

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