Post # 1
Yesterday went to my Aunt and Uncles fourth of July bash. My cousin who just got married, and was back from her honeymoon days ago should have been in pure marital bliss, insteads she was stomping around, pouting, and barely speaking to us, in addition to her and her husband sneaking off have hushed tense conversation.Later when someome brought up her sister who couldn’t come, she blew up. I was feeling bad for her until the reason she was upset came out. She is pissed off because her sister got more money at her wedding. In front of the whole family, neighbors and some guest who arrived early, she blurted out the amount of money her sister got, and asked why everyone thought she was worth more!
Not only did she say this out loud, when we dragged her inside to stop the scene she was created, she berated me and my other cousin for giving her sister such big gifts when we were the same age as her and “closer”. I was beyond pissed off. Yes I gave her sister a large cash gift however it’s none of her business. I spent upwards of six hundred dollars on her wedding events, bridal shower gift, two hundred fifty dollar gift I bought off her registry, I also brought a card to her wedding. Yet she is pissed off that I didn’t give her cash!
I am so digusted with her behavior, she embarrassed her husband who later told us he asked her multiple times to let it go, and that she was bitching it during the honeymoon. I also feel it wasn’t her place to tell everyone her sister’s business like that. Do people honestly expect to get the exact same amount as their siblings? I personally think that she shouldn’t have been keeping score like that, and it none of her business how much her sister got.
Post # 3
Wow, that is terrible! I guess her true colors are coming out… And it ruined her honeymoon too!? Who does that?
Post # 5
@TwoCityBride: Wow, how unbelievably rude! You should tell her that her behavior is exactly the reason her sister got more money and gifts for her wedding.
That marriage might not last too long if she treats her husband the same way she treats the rest of your family. So sorry you had to deal with that!
Post # 6
Oh my gosh, that’s horrifying.
It’s weird that she and her sister shared amounts of what they got, too. I never would dream of asking my sister how much money people gifted her…
Post # 7
Ugh! That is just dusgusting! How could anyone over the age of two behave that poorly?
Post # 8
I can’t believe her I’m hoping it was a temporary lapse of judgement. I know for a fact she got a lot of money. Because she is my cousin from Dads side of the family and in their culture they don’t really do the whole registry thing instead they all give money, typically from 500 to a 1000 dollars.
It also makes her look petty. she is a lawyer working for a well known firm, her husband is an Engineer. I don’t how much he makes, but I know on her own she makes six figures.
Post # 9
That is just absolutely terrible! It makes me upset with her just reading about her actions and I don’t even know the girl! How dare she!
Post # 11
I had a friend who was just way too interested in the amount of money people gave him for his wedding. I really don’t understand that. I certainly don’t expect people to give me anything, and that is beyond ungrateful to actually be angry they didn’t give enough!!! That’s so not what a wedding is about! Wow. That’s all I have to say. Wow….
Post # 12
Her sister’s husband is in the military so they had moved to Arizona two days after the wedding. She was MOH and I think she found out because she helped her separate the gifts, open the cards, and make a list so it would be easy for her to do the thank you cards.
Post # 14
Ugh. Because weddings are all about the money, right?
Here’s where you count your blessing in your own life and be happy that you have enough perspective to know that this stuff just doesn’t matter. 🙂
Post # 16
Back when my sister-in-law got married, in 2008, she recieved a very nice cash gift from a relative. She told me that when my husband and I got married last fall, we could expect to recieve the same amount. Well….our gift was 1/6th of what she recieved. When I first saw it, I was a little shocked, and then a little sad, wondering if these relatives disapproved of our relationship, or something. Then I started thinking about what had changed between her wedding and ours – the ecomony took a big hit. The relatives in question are elderly, and my guess is that their investments took an unexpected hit. I know they don’t favor my sister in law over my husband. It took me thinking about it in this way to come to a conclusion that left me feeling ok about the whole thing.
It’s probably not about the money, its about feeling like you are equally valued by your family. Someone needs to take this bride aside and give her a wakeup call – people’s financial situations change all the time. In my own case, I certainly never mentioned my sadness/dissapointment about this to anyone – that would certainly have been misunderstood, and I would have been seen as horribly ungrateful!