(Closed) er to large/small for corporate environment?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it possible for engagement rings to be to large or to small for a corporate environment?

    er should not be bigger than 1 ct.

    er should be smaller than 1 ct.

    er should not be bigger than 2 ct.

    er should not be smaller than 2 ct.

    er should not be bigger than 3 ct.

    er should not be smaller than 3 ct.

    er should not be bigger than 4 ct.

    er should not be smaller than 4 ct.

  • Post # 2
    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think anything over 2 carats is a bit showy for work. Having said that, I did know someone who wore over 3 carats, but hey – for my taste 2 and under is perfect. 

    Post # 3
    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Oh – and as far as coloured stones? I think they are gorgeous. Small stones are perfect too. Sometimes less is more.

    Post # 4
    2202 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I think it is ridiculous that people are even debating this.

    Post # 5
    777 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think it also depends on what is considered ‘average’ in the area you live/work in. What might be considered average in one city may be considered large in another area. 

    As far as colored gemstones being ‘gaudy’, I think that is ridiculous. 

    Post # 6
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    whoa_its_ash:  +1.

    Corportate enviornment or not, saying someones ring is too small is kind of rude!

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 8 months ago by bpenisson.
    Post # 7
    9 posts

    Its very different in the UK as 1 carat is huge! I don’t know anyone who has a diamond bigger than 0.5 carats! Mine is 0.61 and my friends comment on my “bling”!! I think people assume anything big has got to be fake as it’s not the done thing to be “showy” over here! I personally wouldn’t want anything bigger than mine, I can’t believe the size of some of the rings on US bees!! They’re absolutely gorgeous but definitely not the done thing in the UK!


    Post # 8
    1781 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Like it or not, appearance does factor into a corporate environment. Just like visible tattoos and piercings can limit your career in a corporate environment, so can overly large/gaudy jewelry (and not just engagement rings).

    If your ring is in line with what other professional women are wearing in your area, you’re probably fine. If everyone in your area wears minimal jewelry, and you’re rocking a 4ctw ring, you’re going to stand out, and not in a good way. You want to stand out for your actions at work, not for your appearance. 

    Post # 9
    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    It sounds like the women on that website are nothing but Judgey McJudgerstons.  There is no healthy foundation to the debate.

    Post # 10
    55 posts
    Worker bee

    I am, for the most part “a lady who lunches” however, occasionally I will take on a job once in a while to spice things up. When I do, I usually don’t wear my solitaire/large stones rather, just an eternity band. I feel at my age wearing a large(r) stone around other woman draws too much attention. 

    Though, I’m all for a large stone. I just don’t wear that ring to work. Currently, my stone is a 1.2ct and it draws a lot of unwanted attention when in such close proximities such as an office. That doesn’t discourage me from wanting to go bigger though, hubby and I are hunting down my next stone which will be 2-3ct. 


    Post # 11
    2953 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014


    Post # 12
    6375 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Some people seem to have way too much time on their hands, if this is actually something they discuss…

    Post # 13
    7991 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    this is a weird debate and no one answer. 

    i think the center stone depends on the setting as well.  you can have a large stone in a very tasteful setting and it not look gawdy (as i do).  or it can be in a hideous setting and look huge (where this diamond came from, my grandmother’s ering).

    i originally turned down my grandmother’s diamond because it was huge and ugly and i could never wear it.  my mother pointed out that it was the setting doing it.  once the diamond was placed in a setting that suited my dainty fingers, it looked perfect.

    Post # 14
    584 posts
    Busy bee

    I think this debate is mostly ridiculous – especially on the colored stone front!  Some people are serious snobs.  But I think there are a couple circumstances in which “too big” (define that however you will) could be an issue:

    If you work with poorer communities as part of your job, it might be more tasteful to wear less showy jewelry.  I remember a friend was horrified when the executive director of her nonprofit wore a full-length (real) fur coat on a visit to one of the poorest schools in the metro area.  She thought it was really out of touch and tasteless.

    Also, if you wear a very large stone and have a lower-level job, it could send a message that you don’t really need to work, which could possibly be an issue.  I’m not saying I agree with this, or that it should stop one from wearing their ring, but I know some people make assumptions like this.

    As for rings that are too small?  That’s so absurd for so many reasons I can’t even address it.

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