Post # 1
My Fiance proposed last June, and our wedding is next March (exactly a year from today March 2nd!) My current e-ring is a little on the smaller side then I would have liked just because at the time of our engagment he was just getting out of school and his finances weren’t the best. In addition, it’s sterling silver and currently only has a tw of 1/5 ct. My dream e-ring is a 1ct round cut, 4 prong solitarie on a petitie (1.5 mm) 14k white gold band. We had talked about marriage and how a proposal was in our future but the actual proposal was a suprise. About a month before I sent him some ideas of what my “dream” ring would be after he asked. Clearly it was not in his budget at the time, and he got me what he could afford and he even did say it reminded him of me. The setting has small scrolls under where the diamond is (will send pictures) and I love LOTR and he said it reminded him of the elvish scrolls and he thought of me from it.
Lately, there have been a couple times my Fiance has mentioned wanting to upgrade the diamond in my ring but usually the idea is quickly brushed away. I always said something about “oh yes maybe someday” but hesitated on ever really saying that I’d like it because my current ring can’t just be ‘upgraded’ to what I would want it to be. The setting wouldn’t accomodate as big of a stone as I would like and so I never knew what to say. In addition, The ring was initially a size 7, and I wear a 5 so it was a large resizing anyway because its ever sterling silver its gotten a little scrathed and the structure can’t really be manipulated any further.
Now that i’ve been heavily browsing wedding bee i’ve come acrossed Moissanite and think it’s a beautiful and budget friendly alternative to diamonds. I’m trying to find the best way to play off his idea of upgrading my diamond, to getting an entirely new moissanite e-ring that would be my “dream” one. I would be fine waiting until the wedding to recieve it and maybe suggesting it as getting a new “wedding set” to him, when we would get our bands? I truly don’t think my current ring could just have a larger stone put in and I don’t know how to present the idea of a whole new ring to Fiance.
Is it accetpable or considered rude to ask my Fiance if together we could design and pay for a new e-ring that I could get on our wedding day? How do I bring that up in conversation without hurting this feelings or making him think he did a bad job? Finances are better now, and I would want this to be something that we share the costs on going forward anyway. Any thoughts, opinions, and advice would be most helpful Bees!
Post # 2
I think you should be frank with your partner and tell him that you’d like to upgrade to a bigger stone if at all possible, budget-wise. If you feel guilty, offer to pay half of the cost.
You could also bring up the fact that your ring is sterling and sterling is hit and miss as to whether it will uphold to everday wear. Tell him that if it is alright with him, that you’d like to get a ring in 14k gold because gold will last the test of time, just like your relationship 🙂
Here are some options you could consider that are relatively budget friendly.
This is a 1 ct stone, with four prongs, set into a 2mm band
This is a .8 ct stone, set four prongs, with a 1.8 mm band
This is a 1.5 ct stone, set in four prongs on a white gold band with scroll work that may have elements of your current engagement ring so that it reminds you of it:
This is a 1 ct stone, set with six prongs and a 2mm band:
This is a 1 ct stone, set with six prongs and a 2mm band:
this one is a 1 ct stone, set with double claw prongs, on a 1.5 mm knife-edge band, and some miligrain
Post # 3
I have a almost the exact ring you described (1ct hearts and arrows moissanite on a 1.5mm white gold band) and I adore it. It was only $700 too, we honestly felt a little odd paying so “little” but I got exactly what I wanted! It’s the sol307 from moissaniteco. I’ll post a picture since I know those really helped me while I was deciding 🙂 I wear a size 7 so you’ll get a bit more coverage!
Post # 4
One thing I would suggest: go for the gold setting when you upgrade, your ring will last longer! I have two silver rings that aren’t even daily wear rings (I wear them maybe a couple times per month and take them off as soon as I get home) and both are misshapen, one so bad I’m afraid to keep wearing it because I worry it will start losing stones if it warps much more. I’ve only had the ring above since December, but I only take it off to shower (yes I’m bad and sleep in it) and it’s still perfectly round despite not really being careful with it at all.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
I just finished customizing a ring through MoissaniteCo, so I’m a big fan of the stone and the company (cruelty-free stones, cost-effective, diamond-like quality, a well of designs, and great customer service). Do more research into the stone and different companies that offer it, and see if any styles call to you. The engagement ring should be something you both are involved in (you’re the one wearing it, he’s the one gifting it), so I hope he would be open to your input. Have a conversation about it, and consider reframing the idea of an “upgrade” to focus more on symbolism. It sounds like he did put a lot of thought into the ring, and I’m sure it’s very sentimental to you. Silver might not be the best for a forever ring though, and if your heart is set on another style of ring and finances are better now, I think it’s worth bringing up. There are a number of ways to begin the conversation, but no one here knows your Fiance like you do, so I suggest broaching the idea however you think is best.
“I love my ring, but after the resizing I’m wondering if it’s durable enough to be my forever ring.”
“Remember those ring photos I sent you awhile back? Do you think that’s something we can work toward?”
“You’ve mentioned upgrading my ring and I’m curious what you mean when you say that. I love my ring now, but I’m also interested in x kind of metal and x stone. What do you think? Maybe this one can be my right hand ring.”
Feel him out, see how he responds to an actual discussion about an “upgrade,” and throw some ideas out there. Hope it works out for you, Bee!
Post # 6
Have you ever seen a moissanite in person? They act quite differently from a diamond, so maybe try and check one out in person before making a commitment.