Post # 1
My photographer emailed me a handful of photos yesterday, and they’re wonderful. I put them on facebook.
A good friend of mine got married recently as well, and a mutual friend who is starting her own photo studio (but doesn’t have a ton of experience) did her pics.
Honestly….I think ours turned out better, and I’m really glad we went with the photographer we did. He did a phenomenal job. My recently married friend sent me a message on facebook: “Don’t tell (friend) I said this…but I kinda wish we’d paid someone to do our photos. Yours look so nice.”
I’m at a loss as far as how to respond. Do I say nothing and risk annoying her with my non-response? Is she fishing for compliments for her photos? Hers are nice enough….but in all honesty I do agree that ours are better; but I don’t want to say that and offhandedly diss my friend who did her photos.
It’s comments like this that I wish people would keep to themselves. 🙂
Post # 3
I would pretend you are responding to someone who just said your photos look nice. I would either respond with a “Thanks,” or “Thanks, I liked yours too. ” Then put something else unrelated in the message.
Post # 4
Hmmmm….difficult situation to read. Although, I don’t think your friend would’ve told you that if she didn’t know it already!
My wedding is next weekend and I, too, think that two of my girlfriends that recently got married had better photographers than we do. But, their photographers were about $500-700 outside of our budget.
Probably your best response is, “Your photos are lovely. I especially like x, y, & z” This way, both of your feelings are protected and she doesn’t feel so much like she made a horrible choice on such an important day.
Try not to sweat it!
Post # 5
I would just say, “I think yours turned out beautiful!” You don’t really have to believe that, it’s just nice to say. Does it really matter at this point? She can’t have a do-over, so just give her the compliment she’s fishing for… and then I agree with the above poster, change the subject and ask about their honeymoon or something. 🙂
Post # 6
I think its okay to acknowledge her comment by saying something like “Thank you, we’re very happy with the work he did, but I think your pictures came out beautiful too. I especially like the one where …”
Post # 7
What is the problem with just being nice to this person? Someone is openly admitting to you that they are jealous of something you have. You should take it as a compliment, because that’s exactly what it is. If you had bad wedding photos you’d probably be looking for comfort too 🙁
Post # 8
“Thanks; I think yours look great too!”
Or non-response if you are more of a ‘if you don’t have something nice to say…’ person
Post # 9
“Thanks so much, what a nice thing to say. You got some good ones too, though!”
Post # 10
I would just respond similar to what the previous posters have already stated. Something like: “Thank you :-)”
Post # 11
@LB – it would be different if a complete stranger had done her photos. The problem is that I’m friends with the photographer that did hers. I feel like I have to choose my words carefully – and maybe I’m overreacting, but I feel like she’s putting me in a tough situation by dissing a mutual friend with her comment. If I say the wrong thing, I’m dissing the friend too. Or maybe it’s just that I’m uncomfortable with a friend dissing another friend behind her back. (And yes, that sort of thing has happened before in this group of friends and it’s gotten messy.)
Her pictures aren’t bad by any means….it’s just that to compare them, I think you can really tell that ours were done by someone who has more experience and creativity – the kind that comes with time.
I just wish she would’ve left out the comment about her photos entirely if she really wanted to compliment ours. It’s not even a compliment to us – it’s a compliment to our photographer and (I guess) our good luck in finding and being able to afford him!
Post # 12
I would just say “Thank you. We are really happy with how they turned out.”
Post # 13
I think she was making an honest comment. I too went with a photographer just starting out w/o a lot of experience and I now reqret it. He obviously did not know how to deal with a non-traditional, older couple and while there were some nice shots, there are others I wish he would have taken. But I agree with the above posts, just say thanks and that her photos are beautiful too.
Post # 14
I agree with those above. I’d write something back like:
Thanks so much, we really love our pictures! I think yours are beautiful as well– you did such a great job with your wedding! The ____ was really stunning. How is married life treating you?”
That way you’re making an off-hand comment about her photos but really focusing on what SHE did great about her wedding, and then changing the subject.
Post # 15
I would just say it was awesome of her to let your friend have the experience, and that the photos are very lovely. Thank her for complimenting yours, and then say I wish we would have done_______ (something they did but you didn’t do) Candy bar? etc. and say how cool that turned out. That way she can kinda have the same feeling and you’re both on the same page.