Errrm…I think we’re over…??

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee

So you’ve broken up 3 times? Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

I’m sensing serious communication issues going on from both parties.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Do you want to deal with these patterns forever? Marrying him is not going to prevent it happening. He broke up with you twice before and seems not to communicate well with you nor you with him.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Enough is enough already! Be done with this. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Why are you staying in this relationship? Seems like issue after issue and then the way he ‘proposed’ to you, Im amazed you said yes. 

From an outsiders perspective this is clearly not working and will become more and more toxic over time.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

This relationship sounds like a trainwreck – you were a rebound who supported him through an emotionally draining breakup with his wife, but it doesn’t sound like he actually wants to be with you long term or even see you as more than a friend. Why would you keep taking him back when he’s only offering you crumbs? Also, he’s engaged to you while still technically being MARRIED to someone else. You deserve much better. Cut contact, keep your chin up, and move on. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Stop dating this guy. Relationships shouldn’t be so hard.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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colourmeyellow :  So… you can ignore him for two days and when he tries to make things better you still are short, but when he does it, it’s not ok? I get being mad but double standards are not ok. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I’m really sorry you are going through this. Esablishing a relationship when there is an angry evil ex and children in the picture is difficult and life in general can be excruciatingly painful. It also doesn’t always get easier, you juse become accustomed to it. My advise would be break up as amiably as you can and never ever go back.  Please don’t double down on this misery.

You mentioned that you have been through a lot in 2.5 years. Sometimes this bonds a couple and creates a rock solid team and partnership, other times it leads to resentment and just all around dysfunction.  It sounds like there are huge communication issues at play and since he’s broken up with you 2x before it gets harder for you to invest each time because you know he can and may just dump you again, as it looks like he may now. I know you love him but it’s so important in a committed relationship for both parties to know that fights are just fights and each person is committed to working it out. You deserve to have that commitment from someone and that peace of mind. Not saying people don’t fight and break up but if the rest of the relationship is great, it’s manipulative and inappropriate to just break up with someone over a fight….

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

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colourmeyellow :  and pushed him to talk more after he said you’d guys talk the following day.  I’m a stranger on the internet and are reading what you put down. From what you have said, I think counseling for communication is a must if you want to continue the relationship. 

But I agree with a pp that relationships shouldn’t be this hard. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Sounds like it’s for the best – I have a headache just reading about this shitshow.

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