- 3 years ago
so, my Fiance have been together 2.5yrs, we’ve lived together pretty much from day 1 and have been through an insane amount (he’s divorcing at present and his soon to be ex-wife is pure evil).
Although we were great he’s broken up with me twice, saying he sees me as a mate both times, the break-ups follow the same pattern…when I get mad over something he’s done (nothing crazy on either part just bog standard couple stuff). Thing is we don’t really argue at all so these times I’ve been mad are significant. Both times we split up we kept in contact, once we stayed as friends and literally all that changed was we didn’t have sex and didn’t use girlfriend/boyfriend term, he then asked me back out obvs I said yes. 2nd time I only apoke to him regarding our dog, I kept away from him and his children for my own mental health, again he asked me back saying he was stupid and we ahould marry so it never happens again etc etc so I accepted. We got engaged a few months following on from this.
So the other night I was really mad at him for the way he was with the dog, it was 2am and the dog was up and down wanting to be let out for a pee all the time. On one occasion he noticed she had peed and pood on the floor and he went off it. It shocked me a lot, I get the anger, who wants to clean up dog poo at 2am?! But seriously he overreacted. The next day I couldn’t speak to him, he tried to speak but I ignored him, I stayed at my sisters for 2 nights (this had been planned ages before so I didn’t walk out on him) we hardly text just said when I’ll be home.
When I got in he spoke to me, tried to make me laugh said he knew he was in Coventry etc etc his kids were there though and we made plans for the following day. When the kids left he went to bed without saying a word, we didn’t kiss that night. So the next morning I woke him up so he could get ready as we had our day planned…he said “I don’t think I’m going” when I asked why he said “I can’t be a**ed”, I was livid, I never ask to do much with him I’m so low maintenance it’s unreal but this was one thing I wanted to do. We didn’t speak until teatime, we sorted tea out and he showed me a house we could be moving into. But like the previous night he went to bed without a word.
This brings me to now…so I come upto bed and say “shall we speak tomorrow??” He says “yeh” I say “do you want to have abother night where you don’t kiss me??” He says “yeh”. So, I ask if he wants me to cuddle as I know he loves this, he says “if you want”. I’ll be honest my frustration cane out at this point I asked him if he was ok and why he was treating me like this, he says “we’ll speak about it tomorrow as agreed” so I ask him outright if he is happy he just repeats that we’ll speak tomorrow cos he’s too tired and is trying to go to sleep…I repeatedly told him to talk to me but he just basically told me to shut up.
I just don’t get it, I know he’ll end it again sprouting the same stuff about us being friends etc etc and I just don’t get how he can go from having and arranging our life together to ending it over me being in a mood?!
Hes 40yrs old, he has children from a previous marriage that lasted 15yrs so he isn’t a child and knows how to deal with relationships. This is crazy
Ok, rant over…please be kind I’m kinda at rock-bottom here