(Closed) Escort Card/RSVP Confusion

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3942 posts
Honey bee

We only had two guests that brought a +1 and we didnt know their name. So we just wrote their card as “Mr. Smith and Guest”.

Post # 4
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ask for their guest’s full name on the RSVP. If they don’t know yet, they know that  they’ll need to make that decision REALLY soon and get in touch with you. Plan to make your escort cards as one of the last things you check off your list. If anyone doesn’t get back to you (plan on it, ugh), “Guest of Ms. Melissa Smith” is about the best you’ll be able to do.

Post # 5
6110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I planned on just calling them and asking them for their guest’s name if they didn’t write it on the RSVP card. Maybe that’s too informal? Oh well, I feel like it would make the guest feel special to have their name there as opposed to attached to their date’s card


Post # 6
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

On the RSVP, put “Names_______________________”


when I see this on an RSVP card, I always put both our names, even if one of us was referred to as “guest” on the invite.


if someone doesn’t put their guest’s name, just give them a call or send them a message asking for it. 

Post # 7
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We just did:


and people wrote:

Mr. Person-we-actually-invited and Ms. Person-we-didn’t-invite

on the RSVP’s.

Post # 8
4376 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I actually asked for names:


(Side note – this was a draft – we improved the statement regarding the ceremony age limit.)

Post # 9
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Most people automatically put the name of the guest on the RSVP card along with space for it, but there may be a few you’ll have to call to get the name.

Post # 10
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@LadyBear:  Great idea. The whole “M” thing can be confusing to some.

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