Post # 1
So we’re finally gathering up all of the non-rsvps to get the final count and meals together and I am already stressed just by thinking about escort cards.
I know that there is a right and a wrong way to do these- i.e. no “Mr. Blah” and “Mr. Blah’s Guest” but I have three guests who have done just that (not listed their guest’s names). Should I contact them to get their names? What if they do not respond? Is it acceptable to have those escort cards for a few guests or is it bad juju?
I need everyone to have seprate escort cards due to the meal choice; I never thought something so small would take so much thought!
Any advice or comments will help tremendously! Fiance and I have not paid attention to the weddings that we have been to, to have noticed.
Post # 2
Try to get their +1’s name. In my opinion, it is not welcoming to a guest to not have their name on an escort card. You are correct that the proper way to do things is has each guest’s name. I have been to weddings with Darling Husband where we have just one escort card that says “Mr. & Mrs. XXX” and I think that is fine as well. If those guests do not get back to you then they leave you with no choice.
Post # 3
ohnotali : you need to get their names. I’d be shocked if the guests don’t respond – after all, they did submit an RSVP so they’re not totally ghosting you.
This is actually another reason I LOVE online rsvps. For any of guests with a +1, in order to RSVP for that +1 they had to provide a name. It wouldn’t allow them to add the person otherwise.
Post # 4
catskillsinjune : We finished the escort cards a few nights ago and one guest just got back to us with the name of his guest. It took three weeks! It was an easy fix since we did them ourselves!
We have a website with an RSVP and one guest used it and put the name of their plus one! We had a line at the bottom of the card where it said they can RSVP through our site. I wish we could have done them strictly through our website but unfortunately not many of our guests would use it.