Post # 1
So I just want to hear all of your opinions!
I have decided on a centerpeice I am pretty sure I want. I have read about it and know people who are great at working with this sort of stuff so I really want to do it. But I feel like if there was a table number attached to the centerpeice it would look plain.
My Fiance is worried that if we have escort cards it will be akward for people who come to the wedding who we didn’t make an RSPV card for and who wont have a place to seat. My arguement back is that if they werent polite enough to RSVP (or just show up for that matter) we shouldn’t go out of our way to make them feel comfortable! (Becuase there is nothing more uncomfortable then a guest coming to the wedding you didn’t invite in the first place!) He is also worried that people we invite are going to invite their gf/bf. Although, we clearly put on STD’s the — family… Not the — family and guest! They should know better. If they don’t know better and don’t even ask and invite their friend that that isn’t our problem!
I feel rude on this stand point… But I feel like it is my wedding and it is time to make my own laws! Plus, I really like the idea of having escort cards and assigned seating becuase we have many people who I feel need to be sat with certian people.
So what are your opinions on escort cards/assigned seating? Do you like it or not? And please tell why!
Post # 3
I once went to a wedding that did not have a seating chart, and it caused me a lot of anxiety! I was with my Fiance, and the people that I knew were others couples from work. Since there was no seating chart, we were a bit worried that we all would not get the same table.
Here’s what happened: There was a 30 minute break before the reception. The reception had glass doors and windows all one side. Everyone stood really close to the door eyeing which table they wanted, and once they opened the doors, PEOPLE STARTED TO RUN to save their table.
At that moment, I saw like…there had to be some sort of seating arrangement. If people do not RSVP, you can save a table for them (and it’s really their fault – they should RSVP!)
Post # 4
I had escort cards and table numbers, but not assigned seating.
I didn’t find that we had an issue with anybody showing up that wasn’t invited, or hadn’t told us ahead that they were coming.
Post # 5
we are doing escort cards on this ribbon board
while we are telling our guests which table we want them at, we are letting them choose their actual seat
Post # 6
Wait, do you mean escort cards or place cards? Escort cards tell you which table you’re at; place cards assign you an actual seat at the table.
As a guest, I’ve been to one wedding without either and it was a bit awkward because I was someone who was more of a colleague than a close acquaintance and didnt’t know too many people. It was a bit like junior-high lunchroom. And there was a thread about what people would do differently based on weddings they’ve been to and the “no assigned seating” came up a lot as something brides would avoid based on past experience. So I support assigned seating/tables of some sort.
In your case, for your own sanity, I’d do escort cards but not place cards. That way, you can assign an extra table just for stragglers without having to worry about who sits next to whom. So if Table 15 is the “straggler’s table” it means that if you find that people are coming last minute, you can just dump them at Table 15 without thinking about it. But that way, everyone will have a seat and they won’t feel strange/awkward about vying for the “best seats.”