- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Even though my fiancee and I don’t have a wedding date yet (we’re a little flexible so that we can have more options) and are in the beginning stages of planning, we are getting ideas. My mom and step dad are so excited and happy for us. While this is a second wedding for both of us, I’m elated to finally be planning a wedding I’m excited for and overjoyed to be marrying my perfect partner. However, the other day I started thinking about who (if anyone) I should have walk me down the aisle and began to stress. My dad didn’t come to my first wedding (it was on the other side of the country, and I had offered to pay for his flight), and my step dad is afraid of flying (but said he’d come if I reeeeally wanted him to). I had my mom walk me down the aisle and loved it.
Here’s some backstory: growing up, it felt like my mom and (now deceased) grandmother raised me. They are two of the people I’ve been closest to, and I consider my mom one of my best friends. My dad wasn’t around a lot when I was a kid as he thought work was so important. My parents separated when I was 16 (or so?) and then divorced. Not sure if it matters, but my dad cheatd on my mom and I caught him. He’s on his 3rd wife and she seems nice. My dad and I still aren’t close. It takes him a long time (last time was 2 or 3 months) to call me back even though we only live about an hour apart. I’m not really annoyed or bitter any more. It just is what it is. My step dad and I have become so close over the past two years and I found myself in the last month accidentally calling him dad.. but my mom, he , and I aren’t bothered by it.
Ideally, I’d have my mom walk me down the aisle or my mom and step dad. If my dad or anyone on his family comes to the wedding, I’m afraid that they’d be really insulted and mad. My mom isn’t mad at my dad any more but she doesn’t care for him. She has told me that she loves me, but she really would strongly prefer to noto walk me down the aisle with him. I am debating walking solo since I’ve lived on my own since I was 17, or having my partner walk me down the aisle. My only concern with walking solo is that I’ll be nervous and could use having someone there to give me some reassurance. My partner says he’ll do whatever I want, and has even suggested our dog walking me down the aisle, which sounds cute. I also thought aabout having my mom, dad, and/or step dad walk me half way down the aisle alone and then the other meet at the middle and walk me on their own the rest of the way? Any advice? I’m starting to ponder eloping so I don’t have to deal with this!