Post # 1
I’ve seen a lot of photos of Asian (mostly Chinese, I would say) weddings where the bride and/or groom is escorted down the aisle by both parents (during the wedding ceremony). I know from my friends that this is a Jewish wedding tradition, and I really like it and am going to be escorted by both of my parents as well, but I was wondering if anyone knew if it was a formal Chinese/Asian tradition? It’s also possible that everyone simply likes the symbolism (of being raised by both of your parents, not just your father), I guess! My mom wasn’t sure, either, so I thought I’d ask the hive. Thanks!
Post # 3
It is definitely not a Chinese tradition since traditionally, the Chinese do not even have a "walk down the aisle" type ceremony….they have a tea ceremony. I think you are right…people like the symbolism. Both of my parents walked me down the aisle. I think culturally, most Chinese American would like to honor both parents as a sign of respect for all that they have both done for the child. I think it’s a great idea. It was quite emotional for me to have them walk me down…I almost broke down and cried by the time I got down the end…but i was able to hold it in and only tears welled up in my eyes….
Post # 4
I’m not Chinese nor Jewish, and I plan to do this at our wedding.
The only thing I’m wondering about is how I’ll hold the bouquet since I’d prioritize holding my parents’ hands while walking down the aisle 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2007 - Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL
Yep, my husband and I were BOTH escorted by our parents down the aisle! It really was a wonderful moment… and it was also unusual because I don’t think most grooms get escorted down the aisle =)
Post # 6
i plan on being escorted down the aisle by both parents, as well. as for the bouquet/arm linking thing, i’ll probably hold hands with my mom and link arms with my dad… while holding the bouquet.
Post # 7
Sally, you don’t actually hold onto your parents; your parents hold onto you. You hold your bouquet with both hands, and your parents hold your arms.
Post # 8
i did what briannie plans to do. i linked arms with my father while holding onto my bouquet and held my mother’s hand. i honestly think thta’s the best way! i think it’s sad if i walk down just holding onto my bouquet. who says you have to jus thold the bouquet?
Post # 9
Chinese tradition you walk alone–to your groom, no aisle.
Post # 10
I’m Chinese and I also had both my parents walk with me, just because I like the symbolism, though I couldn’t convince my groom that he should also be walked by his parents 😉
My brother attended a school that provided choirs for the cathedral and as such, a lot was required of families over the norm to support the students’ service to the community. so when they graduate, they walk with their parents to get their diplomas! that’s actually where I got the idea, before I learned it was a Jewish tradition, and then was advised by my church (Catholic) that they preferred with both parents or alone, as well.