- 2 years ago
- Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall
I don’t really need advice. Just wanted to vent somewhere.
I’ve been engaged for almost 2 years. At first I had absolutely no problem with a long engagement, we’ll take as long as we need to save up for the wedding of our dreams! And it was truly ours, in fact, his dreams are bigger than mine!
But then real life happened, and I’ve realized. Oh, no matter how long we wait, this isn’t going to happen. We literally don’t have a dollar to our name after bills. Heck, I had to put a $1,400 emergency room bill on a payment plan because I couldn’t even pay that, WITH insurance helping me!
No problem! Court wedding, I just want to be married! No can do. Well, technically CAN do, but it’ll break my fiancé’s heart. You see, we live away from our original home. My mother and father, and sisters are here, but to be honest, I’m not close enough to my family that I NEED them at the wedding, yes, that includes the parents. But my fiance? That’s a totally different story! He’d go out with his mom once a week just to spend time together. His brother and him? Inseparable! His father and him? Insanely close. And none of them live -here-. So a court wedding wouldn’t have the people that matter, his people. “Have them fly out?” Can’t, they are poor af and can’t afford to come and we’re poor af and can’t afford to bring them.
Our “solution” is to get a court wedding back home. But that still involves plane tickets and a hotel stay. Which sadly, can’t afford!
And so I’m stuck eternally engaged. x.x; He would be more than willing to marry me here, but I know it’ll break his heart for his family to not be there
And before anyone suggests to save money, I’m not kidding, every dollar is accounted for. We’re not broke in the sense that I can’t afford my bills, but we’re broke in the sense that I can ONLY afford my bills. And yes, every bill is an essential bill. I was an idiot who went to college for my passions and my passions don’t pay well. #VetTechLife I’m also a mother, what the part time would pay me won’t cover day care. I’ve thought about that too x.x;