Eternally Engaged

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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7851 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Why not do the court house wedding locally now and throw a bigger celebration with your family later when you can afford it? I get that it will “break your FI’s heart” if his family isn’t able to be there, but it sounds like the current limbo you’re in is breaking your heart. A compromise is needed. If you guys want to be married just do it.

Post # 3
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182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

what about doing some sort of internet viewing for the family that can;t be there in person, and like PP said have a big party when you guys can afford it or even a vow renewal

Post # 4
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3831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

It makes me kind of sad that it will “break his heart” to not have his family around, but it won’t break his heart to not marry you. That wouldn’t make me feel very loved. You’re supposed to be part of his family now. Is he really willing to just never ever marry you because his parents can’t be there to witness it? 

Post # 5
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

aushi :  maybe get married and keep it between the two of you till you can get afford to do something simple with his folks?

Post # 6
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1422 posts
Bumble bee

I vote a skype call and a courthouse wedding. That way they can “be” there and you guys actually get married. Then when you can afford to visit home they can throw you a big party with the whole family.

Post # 7
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1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Sorry you are going thorugh this! I agree w/pp that a compromise is needed. With tech these days, I would suggest doing some sort of video conference for the ceremony and then a party the next time you can all get together. 

Post # 8
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1152 posts
Bumble bee

aushi :  can his family fly to witness your courthouse wedding?

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