Post # 17
Any good jeweler will tell you to try and avoid an eternity band. Even if you are not hard on your hands, the diamonds (really the setting) is weakend. Think about when you grab a grocery cart, steering wheel in your car, if you type on a keyboard at work, grabbing a door handle….each time you do one of those things your ring will be in contact with something hard. Ever look at the bottom of a ring that doesn’t have diamonds on it, I bet its all scratched up and sightly dented-now just imagine diamonds.
I wanted one too, until I realized that I could get more diamonds on top of my finger if I avoid the diamonds all the way around my finger. Try a band that has them about 3/4 of the way around. You’ll save money and your diamonds.
Post # 18
Hi!! I also wanted an eternity band, and I ended up going with a half band (5 diamonds, prong set). I’m very happy with it! I am hard on my hands, so I like not worrying about losing a bottom diamond. And I like being able to re-size it in the future. And it’s very comfortable. At the end of the day, the half band was more affordable, and for me, I didn’t want to spend a lot of money on diamonds you don’t see. I ended up getting a little bit bigger diamonds than I would have for an etermity. I think for a future anniversary, I may get a thin eternity band.
Post # 19
I also had my heart set on an eternity band but changed my mind because of comfort and efficiency. I’m pretty much a clutz and an eternity just wouldn’t work for me unless I only wear it occasionally.
Post # 20
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I really do love that particular eternity band, and would have considered it for myself if my e-ring didn’t have a perfect match. If you want your e-ring and wedding band to sit flush, though, you might need to consider a custom band.
But I think you should go with what looks best on your finger, and if the shared prong settings don’t do it for you, maybe you should consider a different style? A micropave eternity band might be a more suitable style if the other style was too bulky.
Also, on the full versus half eternity band issue? I always vote half. It certainly changes the style, but if you might ever need to resize your ring, it’s essential!
Post # 21
I agree with the bees that have half eternities. I also have a half eternity e-ring band and the wedding band will match. I was too worried about bumping the back of my finger and diamonds falling out! I also had to get it sized down so I’m very glad I was able to do that!
Post # 22
I tagged along when my parents went eternity band shopping together when I was younger, and I distinctly remember trying to convince them to go with the full band because I thought they were soooo pretty. One of the jewelers said the same about full eternity bands and diamonds falling out. My mom ended up getting one anyway, set in platinum. So far, she hasn’t had any issues with stones falling out…and she got the ring 9 or so years ago (I don’t exactly remember how old I was, but I was pretty young).
Honestly, I think it depends the most on 1) the type of metal, 2) type of setting, and 3) how hard you are on your hands.
Now that I’m older and more informed on these types of things, I think half bands are more practical. Most people won’t be seeing the underside of my hand, and as long as the meaning behind the ring doesn’t change, I personally don’t care if there are diamonds the whole way around or not!
Post # 23
Ellenphant, I have a shared prong eternity band, and havent had any issues at all with it. It isnt a perfect match to my e-ring, but I wanted it that way so it sottd out as me wearing a band and e-ring. And I DID have mine re-sized. When I got it, it turnd out to be about a size too big. They cut one diamond and the little basket it sits in out and soldered it back together. Now, if you are hard on your hands, you might want to consider 1/2 or 3/4 eternity. I am in ifnance, so I work on a trading floor and dont bang my hands around often. And I take it off when I go to the gym. No issues.
Post # 24
I really wanted an eternity band to go with my e-ring so we ordered it at the same time. We had it custom made so it exactly matches my e-ring. We talked to different people at the store who had different opinions on what size we should get. I ended up getting 1/4 size larger than the e-ring to account for any finger growth! I figured the smaller size e-ring would help keep it put.
Well now it turns out the e-ring was too big so I had to have that resized and then the wedding band was now over 1/2 a size too big! They did say they could slice it and take one of the diamonds out to bring it down a 1/4 size.
So now I am going to get the band made in my exact size (of course the price of platinum went up!). I think if you get it in your exact size and your finger grows (which I think will be what, 20-30 years from now?) they can shave off a bit on the inside. I’m not sure how that will work for the prong setting bands – mine is something more like channel set.
I am still sticking with the full eternity band though because I don’t want to have to worry about it spinning around and showing the non-diamond size. Also I didn’t want it soldered to my e-ring. Most jewelry stores will give you a free check up on your ring so I’d just stop by every once in awhile to get the diamonds checked.
Post # 25
I have an eternity band on my e-ring and I love it! I plan to get an eternity wedding band as well. I’ve been engaged for almost 1 year and haven’t had any problems with stones falling out or coming loose. It’s a pave setting so maybe that has something to do with it. Also, if I know I’m going to be doing something where my ring could get damaged like lifting weights at the gym, or moving furniture, I take it off. But I love love love it and would definitely recommend it 🙂
Post # 26
My wedding band is the exact one you showed us but less two stones so that it can be re-sized in the future if needed. I just got married in Oct and I think two of the prongs already got dented a little on the inside and it’s not like I get my hands into everything. I do not regret getting it though because I think it is so beautiful. Just be careful to check your prongs often and also make sure diamonds are not loose and about to fall off. I think these rings might need more upkeep but if you pay attention to it, it should be fine. Good luck!
Post # 27
Re: getting eternity bands resized, it actually is possible, and a few pp mentioned. If you need to make it bigger, they can take metal out of the inside of the band to give you a little extra room. If you need to make it smaller, they can take out a diamond and make it smaller that way. So if you really want an eternity band, don’t let worries about resizing it stop you! 🙂
Post # 28
@hilsy – exactly. Im not suer how or why there is such a misconcetion. Now, there ARE types of eternity bands that cannot be sized, but many of them can be
Post # 29
@KellyV, definitely. I went to the jeweler to have my ring cleaned and checked yesterday and he explained it to me. I was very glad to hear it!
Also, can I ask you, what kind of setting is your engagement ring? And does your wedding band sit flush against the engagement ring? I”m having trouble with finding a band to sit flush against my e-ring, and it looks like our e-ring prongs sit at a similar angle 🙂
Post # 30
ooh, not sure what the setting is…its the Tiffany Novo though. The band is a shared prog eterntiy…it doesnt really sit flish but I wanted it to be like that. I tried on the bamd that went with it, but it sat SO flush it didnt look like I was wearing a wedding band.
Post # 31
Ahh ok, gotcha. I can see that there’s a veerrrry slight gap–when I tried on bands, they were much farther away from my e-ring due to the center stone and the prongs, and looked really funny. Your rings look beautiful together–that photo of them on your Louboutin heel is one of my all time faves! 🙂 Hopefully I’ll have my own pair for the wedding day, and can recreate the shot!
Also, ellenphant, I missed the part about being hard on your hands…I think that is a good point to think about. The jeweler that I met with recommended gloves for exercise or anything strenuous to protect my e-ring, so the same thing is likely true for an eternity band.