(Closed) I need help please…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4061 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

What do you want to do?

In UK weddings there aren’t “entrances” like I see on here so I think you can skip them without anyone noticing. And only two speeches (Father of the Bride and Best Man).

If you want to go to the cocktail hour: then go! You can have photos before the ceremony or go to just the latter part of cocktails. You can always make it longer than an hour if you need the photo time or arrange a 20-30minute gap (or more if you’re travelling to another venue) between the end of your ceremony and and your reception, I’m sure most people will have someone they will want to catch up with or have a bathroom break or something.

Post # 4
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We actually did none of those things and no one seemed to care. Our Best Man/MOH were thoroughly relieved we didnt make them make a speech.

Post # 5
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We don’t want to be announced when we come for dinner and all of that, so we just requeted that our DJ not do any of that. I don’t think guests care if you got there for dinner. We are not forcing anyone to have speeches or things like that (and I am most certainly not talking) but appearantly people still have speeches prepared.

How do you go about this? Tell your DH/venue you don’t want tobe announced. If it is family pressuring you, just be firm but polite and tell them that you prefer not to be announced. They should listen to you.

Post # 6
3266 posts
Sugar bee

Etiquette does not dictate anything about entrances, or toasts or speeches, so you are all clear on that front.

If you don’t want to do any of those things, then don’t.  Just move from the ceremony right into the cocktail hour, or go take your pictures and then come back and head into the cocktail hour. 

You are stressing unnecessarily.

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