(Closed) Etiquette for invitations/changing jobs

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

One of my coworkers quit the job right before i sent out the invites. Now she is a really good friend of mines so i sent her one anyway. If you feel close with them, go on and invite them. If you’re only inviting them cuz you work with them everyday, and there really isn’t a friendship there, maybe you shouldn’t?

Post # 3
9761 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you sent the Save-The-Date Cards then you should send an invite regardless of where you’re working. I think you’ll be too busy for it to be awkward- if they feel weird about it then they won’t come but in general your work friends are nothing but happy for you when you move on to your dream job. 

Post # 4
1696 posts
Bumble bee

The best advice is to not send mass-printed “save the dates” in the first place. Traditionally a “save-the-date” takes the form of an excited and spontaneous hand-written note, dashed off to the very special people whose presence is essential to your enjoyment of your wedding day. Since that rarely includes those co-workers who would feel awkward after you move on to another job, following that little bit of traditional etiquette neatly solves the problem — but I reckognize that it’s too late for that now.

The other good bit of traditional etiquette, is to keep your business relationships businesslike and your social relationships sociable. Weddings are a social event, so the only people who should be invited are family and friends. You can have friends who happen to be colleagues, but if they are really friends they go on being friends after you cge jobs. You can have coworkers towards whom you feel friendly, but that is different from being truly friends. However, it is too late for that now (keep it in mind for the future, though.)

So since you have already reached out to promote these future wedding guests from “co-worker” status to “friend” status, carry through with what you’ve started, and trust those who accept the invitation to carry through by acting as friends in return. And as MrsBuesleBee says, true friends will be nothing but happy for you.



Post # 5
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I did something similar actually. I sent save the dates to co-workers I am close to at my current job and I will be starting a new job next month! It would be very rude to uninvite them, but I don’t think it will be awkward. Likely only the closest ones will come and the rest will decline. Though I do work in a very small office, so we are all close and I would love for them to attend!

Post # 6
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with all the other comments. Just because you may leave your job doesn’t mean you are losing their friendship. I invited previous coworkers from my previous job to my wedding because they were special to me! It won’t be awkward. If it’s your dream job…they would understand and be proud and supportive of you moving on. 

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