Etiquette for inviting married couples to events

posted 5 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
7042 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Accepted etiquette would be for them to invite you both though as we’ve seen often enough on WB a lot of people just don’t care about etiquette anymore and do what suits them best.

My guy will generally only attend a formal event if I’m invited and attending also, he’s just not that into them, so this strategy would not be successful in our case.

Post # 17
8757 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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bluebell83 :  the fact that you have both attended together in the past, they know you are married, and even went so far as to acknowledge your pregnancy on the invite makes it pretty darn rude that they didn’t invite you. I would ask my husband not to attend and not send a donation. 

Post # 18
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Even though they agknowledged your pregnancy on the invitation, I am still wondering if it wasn’t an oversight that your name was not included on the guest list. Sure, they could potentially get more donations if they don’t invite couples, however you have been invited as a couple before and have both donated to the organization. Plus, people are a lot less likely to go to a formal dinner alone, so I would imagine the acceptance rate would fall. If I were your husband, I would inquire about whether you were invited. If not, I would decline. The organization should know that they are probably not going to increase donations by leaving spouses off the guest list.

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