Post # 1
Hi all, what is the proper etiquette for a “maid of honor” who is no longer going to attend? I don’t want to speak to the bride, but still want to respond in the most polite way possible. There is a long story which would provide more background but it’s probably not necessary.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Alcyone81: I am assuming that you are the Maid/Matron of Honor from the post. You need to let the bride know so she can get someone else. If you purchased a dress, it is your dress. If the bride purchased the dress, you need to give it back. It is hard to give much more advice without more information.
Post # 3
I think the most polite way is to call her up and tell her but if you really don’t want to talk to her then send her an email or a text telling her that you can no longer fill the Maid/Matron of Honor position and will not be attending the wedding ASAP.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
You need to send your regrets – if not to the bride personally, then to the groom. Someone in the couple needs to know you’re not attending.
Post # 5
Alcyone81: I would call and tell her that you will not be attending her wedding. If you are friends with this girl (or she is family) I think you owe it to her to call. While, you did not provide the backdrop for your decision, the bride most likely thought very highly of you to ask you to be her Maid/Matron of Honor. I would suggest doing this sooner than later….. the bride will have a lot of changes to make in terms of the wedding and day of events……