(Closed) Etiquette for Save the Dates

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

When I did my Save-The-Date Cards, I had the same conundrum.  I decided to just address the STD to the primary invitee, because we sent them 10 months before the wedding date.  Since then, a few breakups and a couple new relationships have occured, so I am glad I made the decision I made.  I think some people may find it confusing or even rude, but it worked out for me. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Darling Husband and I did the opposite of mundaetraversa – we included guest information with the Save-The-Date Cards.  But we also only allowed guests for married/engaged/long-term relationships so there really wasn’t any potential issues.

If a LTR became engaged, so what – they were already both invited.  If people break up, if you’re close with both of them, I’m sure you’d still be inviting both (just seperate invites for the actual invite) and if you aren’t close to one of them, why would they want to come anyway?  And if people start dating someone new, it won’t be a LTR so the new SO wouldn’t be invited anyway!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We did the same thing as @mundaetraversa: – – – We addresses the STD to our primary guest (they went out 9 months before wedding date) and then when our invitations went out we either added ‘and guest’ or we left it off as there were break ups and other changes….

I think its best for you to address the STD’s to your primary guest and then when you do your invitations you can add ‘and guest’ or not depending if they’re still together Wink

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