(Closed) Etiquette Help Please! Should I give a gift?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I give a gift or not?
    Don't worry about it - give him a nice card & be done with it. : (19 votes)
    26 %
    Contribute $35 to their registery (for home renovation project) : (45 votes)
    63 %
    Pick something off their registery - $50 or more, : (6 votes)
    8 %
    Other option - see below : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Give what you can afford. I bet they would prefer $35 on their renovation registry vs a $50 gift off of their macy’s registry.

    Post # 5
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    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You are certainly not obligated to give anything. However, I always leans towards giving in these situations. I would either donate to the renovation fund, or give a check. I know that we never thought any gift was too small when we got married. We just appreciated the thoughtfulness. 

    Post # 6
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    6743 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think that when you RSVP no, any gift you give is nice. 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d probably donate to the registry like you were considering doing. Since it is not the actual wedding reception and you are not attending the party, I wouldn’t worry too much about spending less on a gift than you normally would.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If you can afford it, give something towards the renovation. If not, a card will be sufficient.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think that they would really appreciate something(anything!) towards the renovation fund. Thats where I would give

    Post # 10
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Were other people you work with invited?  You could organize a group gift.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If this is a work relationship (you don’t really see each other socially) a card is completely appropriate. Or maybe go in with a group from work and chip in to purchase something off the registry or contribute to their home renovation fund. 

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Elvis:  +1

    Gifts are for people you have a close relationship with.  When you are just casually acquainted – like a collegue, then a card is appropriate.  If you generally get together outside of work, and you know the names of each other’s family members and pets, you’re probably close enough to send a gift. 

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