(Closed) Etiquette – how much (monetary gift) for only 1 person attending?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally, if I already rsvp’d no for him, I would just add enough for me.

I usually go by the “pay for your plate rule”… which I always guess about $100. I once gave $75 because I was kinda broke.

Post # 4
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I usually gift according to my budget, factoring in how close I am to the person (regardless of if I’m attending along or as +1).

Post # 5
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

If it’s just you, you just cover you

Post # 6
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would probably include him. He was invited too, and you’ll probably sign his name on the card. That being said, still don’t give more than you can afford.

Post # 7
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I give everyone around the same dollar amount whether my fi is coming or not. I can only afford gifts that are $20 to $30.

Post # 8
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just give what you are able to afford.

Post # 9
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

ditto artbee

Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Everyone is different give what you can afford weather its 20 dollars or one hundred dollars.

Post # 11
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I automatically do $100 per person. If I am much closer with the couple then I have done more. I also think $100 per person was the average gift we got for our wedding and we were very happy even though it in no way went by the cover the plate rule.

Post # 12
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We normally give $350 for a couple – $100 to pay for our plate (each) and a gift, maybe $160/80 for just yourself?  

Post # 13
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I also use the “pay for your plate method” plus some. You usually have enough notice with a  wedding invite to budget for it and I like to think of it as helping the bride and groom to pay for the great party! include some for him even if you didn’t rsvp 🙂

Post # 14
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow… Canadian Mermaid… want to come to my wedding?!?!  j/k-  very generous though!  I would gift what you can.  My Fiance and I are both broke, and our friends/family know it, so we gift what we can- regardless of if we are going.  There is an old ediquitte rule that says that you are not required to give a gift even if you come, but you should if you are invited (regardless of if you go).  So I would gift based on the two of you- from you as an engaged couple.  I know for my brother’s wedding- his closest friends gave up to $300… but Fiance and I could only afford around $100 and a thoughtful handmade photo gift (I took photos of “letters” around the city I was living in and collaged them into our last name, printed it on a high quality printer and had my father make a handmade wooden frame for it).  So it really depends on what you can do. 

Post # 15
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

@oracle: Ditto.

Post # 16
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would probably give $100 for just me. More if they were super close friends.

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