(Closed) Etiquette? Inviting the Minister

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think the minister should be invited.  If you don’t know them very well, they tend to decline. In your case, with it all being in one place I could potentially see the minister having a (non-alcoholic) drink during cocktails to get to know some of your friends and family if he/she likes to socialize and would leave shortly after.

We meant to give our minister an invitation when we met with him to go over some of the ceremony details, but forgot.  My parents just dropped one off for him for us (since we live in a different city).

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Agree with @AB Bride:  you should definitely invite your minister if he’s been an acquaintance of your Fiance for some time now. 

My take – if the minister was simply another vendor, like he was recommended by your venue or a stranger to you and your Fiance, it would be polite to offer them a meal.  S/he would be considered a “vendor” and 90% of the time, your venue for the reception would offer a lower-cost “vendor meal.”  It’s something you could ask during one of your consultations with him/her, like, “Would you like to stay after the ceremony for dinner?”

Post # 5
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Busy bee

You are expected to invite your minister and his/her spouse.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t love it, but EVERYTHING indicates we have to invite them and their spouse.   I heard that usually they decline.  But, Ive upped the budget to include.   Since we are getting wed on the opposite side of the country to where we live, I don’t really know the minister. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The minister is usually always invited. Our minister is pretty awsome we cant wait to have him at our wedding along with his husband. I believe if they are married the spouse is also to be invited.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

our minister is my grandpa so ya hes invited i suppose 😉 LOL

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AB Bride – some pastors do enjoy alcoholic beverages as well!

OP, invite him.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am not inviting mine.  He is a vendor recommended by the hotel at my destination wedding.  I will only meet him at the rehearsal the day before the wedding and there is an hour and a half break in between the ceremony and the reception.  It’s not like he is performing the ceremony around dinner time.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@missashley884:  Yes he is. Gay interratial minister is not typical but he is incredible. I met the minister at a ceramic painting studio.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Technically most say you should, but usually they decline. 

We’re inviting ours, but he’s a close friend of mine, and also very in-demand in my area. In fact, it was so important that he not only be able to marry us but also attend the reception (as opposed to marrying us and heading to another wedding) that we actually have planned it around him…lol. We picked our date based on his availability, and the ceremony time so that the can do our ceremony before one he already had on the books, and come back for the reception – although he will have to miss cocktail hour.

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