Post # 1
Im 42 and marrying for the 2nd time. I’ve picked my dress and have ended up with a real “wedding” dress which is not what I expected. Now, Im 2nd guessing because, well, its my 2nd marriage. Is this a big deal anymore or am I just remembering old etiquette?
Post # 3
First off, congratulations!
Second, screw old etiquette. You’re getting married and you’re in love, yay! Wear a gorgeous gown that makes you feel amazing. Just because you’ve been married previously doesn’t mean that this wedding is any less important imo 🙂
Post # 4
who cares that it is your 2nd wedding wear the gown that you feel absolutely beautiful! Congrats on your marriage!
Post # 5
I agree with the others. I’m 40 and married for the second time two months ago. I originally felt like you, that it was expected I should have less of a wedding because it was my second. Luckily my husband wised me up real quickly and we had the wedding of our dreams and went all out … I wouldn’t have been happy doing it any other way.
Do what is special for you, what will mean the most for you, and what you feel comfortable in!
Post # 6
I think the idea that you shouldn’t wear a proper wedding gown for a second/third/whatever marriage is pretty old-fashioned; I think it stems from when you were only ‘supposed’ to marry once, and divorce or subsequent marriages were frowned upon and so done in a very low-key way with as little fuss as possible. Whereas now thankfully times have changed, and it is much much more acceptable to divorce and remarry; people are no longer forced to spend their lives in unhappy marriages and have the freedom to move on and start again. So for me, not wearing a proper dress is kind of old-fashioned, and to me personally, it’s a bit like saying it’s not as important second time round. Whereas I think a second marriage is just as special as the first, and should be treated the same.
I can see why some people do want something low-key if they have already been married; they may feel the expense is unnecessary and that they’ve ‘been there done that’. And that’s fine. But it’s also fine to want it to be special, to celebrate properly, and to want to look beautiful in a great dress 🙂
Post # 7
@dreamweaver5521: Be as beautiful as your possibly can, its your wedding day. Who cares if it is your second time. Have fun, enjoy your life!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I figured out my “main” problem with my dress and I think I’ve fixed it! Its strapless and Im adding some straps to it…kind of the cap-type for my shoulders. I’ll feel MUCH more comfortable. Im 5’2 but far from tiny and quite busty. I think this was part of the problem with the dress. Thanks for helping me realize that a white wedding dress is OK to wear at my age! 🙂