Post # 1

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Blushing bee
I need some opions. Say you are sharing a hotel room with your sibling. You paid for the room because you are there for a work thing but your sibling did come with you. You have work in the morning at 6 am and you are a very light sleeper but your sibling wants to stay up until 3 am on their computer. The computer is not the problem the problem is that they keep vaping and then clearing their throat every 2 mins and having fits of coughing from the vaping and moving around thus making so much noise and laughing out loud at whatever they are watching so you don’t get any sleep.
Is it wrong to ask them to please go to the lobby/courtyard if they are going to be awake?
Is it wrong to ask them not to take a nap in the evening time (7 pm) so they can sleep at night instead and allowing you to sleep as well?
Post # 2

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Blushing bee
Another things I am totally biased agaist the vaping and have had multiple conversations with the sibling but they are not into listening to me
Post # 3

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Busy bee
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
I don’t think you can ask them not to nap as a means of trying to control THEIR sleep schedule. That said, you are absolutely within your rights to set certain expectations on sleep hours (ex: lights out after 11 or midnight, go to the lobby if you want to watch funny Vines). I also don’t think you can put a restriction on them coughing; that’s just their body!
If that doesn’t work: earbuds and eyemask. They make very comfy ones.
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
onepeople101 : Tell her she can’t vape in the room that you (or your work) paid for, if she wants to stay up all night vaping and watching shows then she can pay for her own room.
If she’s coughing, you can’t do much about that. And the idea of asking her to take a nap at 7 PM is really strange, don’t do that.
Post # 5

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Buzzing Beekeeper
I’d straight up tell my sibling they can pay for their own room if they want to vape.
And yes, go to the lobby if you’re going to be rude all night.
Napping I wouldn’t touch.
Post # 6

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Busy Beekeeper
Are you in a smoking room? Because most hotels don’t allow vaping in the rooms. They consider it the same as smoking.
I think you are 100% within your rights to say #1 they can’t vape in the room; and #2 if they want to stay up they should go to the lobby. This is a trip for work afterall. You need some sleep.
You can’t ask them not to take a nap though. That’s going too far.
Post # 7

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Busy Beekeeper
My own husband goes to the lobby when we’re sharing a hotel and he wants to stay up late while I go to sleep. I then do the same thing in the morning when I wake up before him. This is just basic courtesy?
I would not be sharing a room with my sibling if they behaved this way though.
Post # 8

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Honey bee
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
I would definitely ask them to go elswhere while you’re trying to sleep. Even Fiance goes out to the balcony to watch videos when I go to bed before him on holiday.
No vaping in the room unless the hotel allows it. I wouldnt ask them not to nap, though.
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
I’m with PPs unless you 1- asked the sibling to come with you and 2- you were fully aware of their vaping/ sleeping habits when you asked your sibling to join you.
Post # 10

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Busy bee
Earbuds or ask them to hang out in the lobby. Or fork over some money for the room
Post # 11

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Blushing bee
I agree with you guys about the napping.
I knew he did the vaping but I did not think he was going to bring it with him through the plane. The thing in the vaporizer is not strictly legal in my state or his state while being legal in other states so I did not think that he would be stupid enough to transport it in the plane. I work in a very profesional capacity and it scares me to be associated with that type of thing because it can affect my career even if I have personally never been associated with it.
Post # 12

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Buzzing bee
No vaping and no disturbing you after lights out at 10. He can handle his own sleep schedule to fit these perameters.
Post # 13

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Blushing bee
dreeceves : I could not afford to get him a room at the hotel. I was only staying there because work is going to reimburse me for the work there. He could totally afford it though, he has been making 6 figure salary for last 6 years.
Post # 14

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Blushing bee
manylovesbee1 : the coughing is only from this vapping though and usually don’t have a cough its only after the action of inhaling the substance which makes them cough really violently
Post # 15

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Busy Beekeeper
onepeople101 : My husband vapes so I’m curious to know what sort of vape he uses that is illegal in some states? Or do you mean he vapes a certain type of juice that is illegal in some states? Because that’s definitely a thing but they’d have no way to tell that going through airport security. Vape equipment is thoroughly checked at the airport because of all the batteries and whatnot, but it most certainly is allowed to be transported as long as you follow all the proper rules and regulations about how to pack them.
Sorry for the tangent!