Post # 31
Your brother is an ass. You are on a work trip in which YOU (assuming you or your company at least) paid for the hotel. He needs to do whatever the hell you tell him to or he can go pay for his own room.
Post # 32
Why on earth did you invite your stoner brother to come with you on a business trip?
Post # 33
misslucy : Now that I think about it I should have never invited him.
He is 28 years old and he has been involved with this type of thing for a while. He was in a rough spot last year when he got into an accident and had prolong recovery period. He was already planning on moving back in with my parents prior to the accident so he has been living with them. Don’t get me wrong he lived with them more for physical support, he had a good job before the accident which he quit and now he has another good job. He has had a 6 figure salary for multiple years now so it has nothing to do with his financial situation. He was always kind of wanting to be on his own and was not close to the family but none of us are really that close to each other. After his accident he showed interest in traveling and exploring because he felt like he had to deal with his own mortality and he has not gotten to experience much. He loves food and loves to try new food. He made plans for a weekend trip locally to put himself out of his comfort zone but then cancelled it. He told me he really wanted to get out of the house but he has not had much experience with traveling on his own or otherwise and he is still not wanting to drive much if possible. Since I was going to the city and the hotel they booked was in down town and already had two beds and they said it was fine as long as they did not have to pay for his food I invited him.
I thought it would be nice, hotel has an in door pool, he loves the pool. There are hundreds of small resturants on the same street he could walk around and explore the food scene while I was at work. he was also going to be working during the day time since he works online he could work from any where but he said his job is flexible and he can hours off to go explore the city. I figured I would be at work all day, he would be combination of work and exploring all day and we could have nice dinner, walk around and would not be in too much each others hair.
I have also been going through some personal stuff so I thought it was a nice break for both of us. I did not think about “that” stuff because he was flying here and in my mind why would you ever jeopardize yourself like that? Last time he came 3 years ago he did not bring anything like that with him.
I have also been trying to form a closer relationship with my siblings since none of us are really that close so I thought this trip might help with that as well.
Post # 34
onepeople101 : How disappointing. You were trying to get closer with him, and his need to get high even at risk to your fricking career which is paying for his hotel room, is messing it up. Very sad. This is not your fault and you should not feel bad that he’s throwing a tantrum. You should however, learn a lesson from it. Stoners gonna stone. You are clearly not going to get him to stop, so any relationship you have with him has to be with the understanding that he vapes THC. If you don’t approve or don’t want to be around that, you’re not going to be able to have a close relationship with this brother.
Post # 35
misslucy : My husband did that when we were engaged. I was at a hotel in DC for a month and he would come down Friday – Sunday and tour on his own while I went to work.
Post # 36
No vaping in the room. Lights out when I have to sleep to prepare for work. No disturbing me when I’m sleeping. I’d have no problem saying that to a sibling. You’re there for work, and were nice enough to let him crash at your hotel but work is your #1 priority and he should respect that, no questions asked.
Post # 37
You tried to do something considerate and nice–he refuses to be considerate or nice in kind. He has no respect for you or what is at risk for you. He’s being a dick. Sorry, Bee.
Post # 38
Since he has a 6-figure salary, he can pay for his own room. Frankly, I’m not sure why two adults would want to share a room in this kind of situation, particularly if money isn’t an issue.
Post # 39
onepeople101 : Your brother sounds pretty emotionally stunted. It was kind of you to invite him but you probably should have just made him get his own room from the beginning. If he’s making a 6 figure salary, he doesn’t need to share a room and if he can’t be in a room by himself, he’s got some pretty significant issues that a professional should be contacted to work through with him.
Post # 40
onepeople101 : If he’s smoking weed in a hotel room which your company is paying for, you can be held accountable for that. He needs to stop immediately. One of your neighbors could complain and your company could find out. Would you let him murder someone in your hotel room?