(Closed) Etiquette on here

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
45663 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


nikkit722:  There are mean spirited people everywhere. The internet is  their favorite playground because they can be mean anonymously. They get off on people like you getting upset.

Stop giving them the power to do that to you.

You must realize that if you ask for opinions you are going to get them, and they won’t all be what you want to hear.

Post # 3
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

if you ask an opinion, then that means you’re asking what people think. If you want people to just tell you positive things, that’s fine, but that’s not an opinion. I didn’t see your original post, but FTR sometimes very expensive things can look cheap, just like cheap things can look expensive.

Post # 5
1247 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

It sounds like you were looking for honest opinions, and you received them. Would you really want people to tell you something looked wonderful if it didn’t? (I haven’t seen the dress, I can’t comment one way or the other, although I know Mori Lee stuff tends to be very nice.) Not everyone in the world is terribly tactful, especially on the internet, and when you concretely solicit opinions – well, people will tell you what they think. All you can control is your behavior (posting vs. not posting) and reaction. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Post # 7
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

nikkit722:  FWIW I think your dress looks lovely on you!!

Post # 9
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

nikkit722:  I would never have been able to tell, granted the pic is sideways but it looks elongating. I really like the waist detailing

Post # 10
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015


I agree with Songstress_7:  i think its looks of beautiful quality and you look great in it …. Dont worry about other people you have to just go with what u love … U obviouslly fell in love with it once you will find it again you are just getting wound up in the excitement 🙂 best of luck 

Post # 11
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

nikkit722:  Like PPs said, if you ask for opinions be ready for honesty. But I think the dress looks very nice on you.

Post # 12
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

nikkit722:  Although I didn’t see the original feed, I’m sorry that you experienced some negative comments on your dress. Some of the PP’s have made some valid points though! There will always  be someone out there who doesn’t like your choices but at the end of the day, as long as you love your dress thats all that matters!! I’ve seen people say “You can do better” when asking peoples opinions about different things (ie. rings, dresses, decor etc). Some people prefer the brutal honesty of others and will ask for opinions on the bee. I may not be as helpful to those brides that are asking for opinions so I try to stick to threads that are looking for help with ideas or fun threads etc (If I can’t say something nice to someone than I keep my opinion to myself as I know not everyone likes the same things!) Try NOT to focus on the negative comments and just sift through the helpful comments that will reassure you with your choices!

Post # 13
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

nikkit722:  I saw your thread but didn’t read the whole thing. Most/all the comments I saw said that the dress looks good on you (even if it wasn’t the responders taste). If you love your dress, that’s all that matters – and don’t ask for opinions if you’re going to get really upset by all the responses.

Post # 14
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh, your dress was my runner up!  It’s neither cheap nor boring.  I thought it was quite lovely, and it took me a long time to make up my mind about which I wanted to choose.  It’s an A-Line, and right now, I think that particular style has waned in popularity somewhat, but not because it’s a bad style.  On the contrary, it’s very classic looking and I guarantee that when you look at your wedding photos in 15 or 20 years, you’re not going to laugh about what you wore.  To each their own, but I think you made a very wise dress choice.

Post # 15
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

nikkit722: Here are the Terms of Use for posting on WeddingBee. http://www.weddingbee.com/terms-of-use/#axzz32halsX8x If you feel they were violated in your original post, refer them to the mods. If not… deal. “This will be my last post” followed by several more posts puts you yourself on the thin edge of their flounce policy. (point xi).

Opinions: ask and ye shall receive.

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