Post # 1
Miss Barrettes’s recent post got me thinking about this. Are any of you bees aware of any of the etiquette sources (Miss Manners, Dear Prudence, Emily Post, etc.) addressing this issue? I figure that in this age of social media and people’s differing opinions on it, this will become a more common issue.
I specifically want to know if it is appropriate for a bride and groom to make a request that guests refrain from posting wedding pictures. And if it is, where is the best place to make such a request?
I know this got a lot of reaction on Miss Barrettes’s original post and while I respect hive opinions, I am only interested in whether or not an etiquette source has addressed it.
Post # 3
I have read everything by Miss Manners and a ton of Emily Post (I’m a bit of an addict) and I haven’t seen anything on this issue.
Post # 4
I feel as though this particular concern would have to be spread by word-of-mouth. I could tell my sister and family, “Uhh… can you not post pictures of us QUITE yet? Thanks!” haha. BUT telling people whom I’ve invited to my wedding, I think it’s kind of rude. People get excited to share their photos (me included) and want to show what a great time they had!
I guess the only option I could think of would be to do one of those MooCards with a website where they CAN upload their pics, and a friendly reminder to not post on social networking sites. Even that might be a bit odd to see, though.
Post # 5
One of my friends felt really strongly about not having wedding photos posted on Facebook. She just passed that information along. Her reasoning was that she would be gone on her honeymoon, didn’t have internet access, and wanted to be able to see photos before anyone else…People didn’t mind and respected her wishes.
We’re asking guests to upload their photos to a Flickr account because my photog won’t be there during the actually party. We’re making this request on our website. I would probably put any requests like that on a website, not in an invitation. If you set up a FAQ section, that may be the ideal place.
Post # 6
Anna Post (great-great-granddaughter of Emily) says it is the responsibility of the wedding guests to ask for approval before posting pictures online:
But assuming all of your guests aren’t etiquette experts, I think having small cards on the tables asking your guests to upload photos to a Flickr stream would be a good idea, and on that same card you could politely request that guests refrain from posting on Facebook.
Post # 7
I really love seeing wedding photos on facebook… in fact I stalk for them! I had no clue that people don’t like to see them?
Post # 8
My friend tagged a heinous photo of me while I was on my honeymoon, and I saw it when I got back and laughed and untagged it. People take Facebook WAY too seriously.
Post # 9
Yea I’m curious about this too… I just don’t want other people who weren’t even invited to the wedding to see pictures of us while we’re on our honeymoon and before we even get a chance to see them! I was thinking about making small cards asking people to upload to photo sharing site instead of Facebook….
Post # 10
@pb and j: Thanks for the link
Post # 11
It’s been my experience that people get really touchy and sometimes angry about having photos of them posted on FB. So I make it a practice to either only post photos of people who I know would’t give a rats behind about seeing photos of themselves on FB or I send them privately to the people who were there and ask them first.
People started uploading photos of my wedding the next day and we couldn’t wait to see them! But I made our wedding album private so only my friends can see it, so if someone is tagged all their friends don’t have access to the entire album.
Post # 12
Hmmm i never thought anything of people posting photos of our wedding on FB. I couldn’t wait for it personally, as something to hold me over until I got the professional pics back! I am obsessed with photos anyway so the more people posted the better, imo. I’ve never seen anything in any official ediquette source about it, probably because it’s such a new phenomenon. I loved it also because I had access to the internet on our honeymoon (and of course I used it because I’m an internet junkie) and I was so excited to see people’s photos which helped me relive our special day!
Post # 13
I went to a wedding where it was really important to the couple that photos of them not appear online. Originally, they had wanted to not let anyone take any photos, at the ceremony or the reception, but they changed it to allowing their guests to take photos, but asked them to not post or share them in any online space. It was explained at the beginning of the ceremony that this was a sacred space that they only wanted to share with the guests in attendance.
Post # 14
I would ask first, I would also ask before posting pictures of people children, and make sure that the settings are to friends only, but thats just me.
Post # 15
Wow, I’ve actually been annoyed that more of our guests didn’t post their pics on facebook. I’ve almost asked one cousin to post pictures I know she took of me and her daughter dancing.