(Closed) Etiquette on saying thank you for early gifts

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m pretty sure you are supposed to send out thank-you notes as you get the gifts. So as soon as possible after receiving a gift would be the appropriate time to send a thank-you note.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

For any gifts received before the wedding send thank you notes as the gifts come in. For gifts given at or after the wedding, etiquette says you have up to a year to send thank yous, but try to knock those out sooner rather than later.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

so glad i saw this! I just got my first gift!! I opened it and was told I wasn’t supposed to?? DOH! How are you supposed to write a personal thank you if you dont even know what the gift is?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Don’t wait! Send your Thank You right away.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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FrenchToastnCoffee :  Technically you aren’t supposed to USE it. You can open it to see what it is so you can send a thank-you note. But you aren’t supposed to use it in case the wedding gets called off so that it can be returned.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

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FrenchToastnCoffee :  We have an Amazon registry, but I order so much other stuff from them (and have auto-shipments of some things) that I can never remember what was supposed to be coming until I open it! So I’ve inadvertantly opened several early shower gifts in the last couple of weeks sealed

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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everythingpink :  Haha…I don’t think it really matters that much to be honest. I mean hopefully you won’t be calling off the wedding! And even if you did, the last thing people are going to be thinking about is getting thier gift back from you!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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missjoy0819 :  etiquette says you have up to a year to send thank yous, but try to knock those out sooner rather than later.

This is mistaken. You should always send thank you notes ASAP. It’s a pretty common confusion, though!

What etiquette actually says is that people have up to a year to give a gift for a wedding. Somewhere over time, this has gotten confused with the “you have a year to send a thank you” concept, which is not accurate.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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everythingpink :  As already stated, thank-you notes should be sent as soon as the gift is received. At the very least, it lets the sender know that the gift has been received. A fringe benefit is that it lessens your workload after the wedding.

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missjoy0819 :  etiquette says you have up to a year to send thank yous

This is incorrect, but commonly confused with the fact that a guest has up to a year to send a gift if they so choose. Thank you notes for gifts received at or following the wedding,should be sent asap, within 3 months at the very most (time period extended to allow for modern honeymoons)

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1988-03-09/entertainment/8804050822_1_wedding-gifts-time-limit-brides

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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FrenchToastnCoffee :  Nah, you’re fine! Generally the rule is, open it so you can know what it is to send the thank you but don’t use it until the wedding.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I wish I had known this! My husband and I ended up sending Thank You cards to everyone a few weeks after the wedding, including the people that purchased gifts from our registry like 4 months before our wedding.

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