Post # 1
Ok, so a good friend of my Fiance got engaged to his Girlfriend earlier this year and they decided to have their wedding 1 week after ours. it just so happend that our MOH’s/MOB’s planned our Bridal Shower on the same day without knowing. She has become a nice friend of mine and since hers starts at 1230pm and mine starts at 330pm, i would love to make it to her shower for a few hours before mine starts. Here is the problem… im not sure what she is planning on wearing, but to my shower i was going to wear a cream dress with lace on the bottom but doesnt scream bridal (at least imo). i would hate to take extra time to go all the way home to change since i live all the way across town from both her and my shower .. so i was just thinking of wearing this dress to her shower, then go straight to mine.. but is it rude? inappropriate? i know not to do this at a wedding.. but does a bridal shower count? help!
here is a pic of my dress.. sorry its cut in 2 halfs but you can see more or less what it looks like..
Post # 3
I would bring another dress so that you don’t wear that dress to hers. That’s lovely that you two were able to work it out so that you both could attend each others, but I think that wearing white or cream would make you look like the bride. While that is perfect for your shower, I think it would be a bit disrespectful (even though you clearly aren’t intending for it to be so). Also, even if the other bride is totally cool with it, I imagine that there are some more traditional members of her family who wouldn’t appreciate it and would feel like you are detracting a bit from her time.
Post # 4
@Mrs. Louboutin: +1, pretty much exactly what I was going to say!
Post # 5
Wear another dress and change into yours in the bathroom before your party! 🙂
Post # 6
@Mrs. Louboutin: Totally agree.
OP – you don’t have to go all the way home to change dresses. Just take both with you and change in a bathroom or something.
Post # 7
@Mrs. Louboutin: you are right. i figured this but was unaware if the etiquette was just for weddings or if it ivolved bridal showers too.. i guess it does make sense that the etiquette would apply for anything bridal at all! 🙂
Post # 8
This is maddness.
People getting upset when someone wears cream to a wedding, and now to a shower!
Etiquette sources have said it is fine to wear white, as long as it doesn’t upstage the bride or look bridal (for a wedding). A shower is a less formal event.
Post # 9
Echoing the others — wear something else to your friend’s.
Post # 10
Don’t wear it to the wedding! Grabanother dress, leave it in the car, and change at a restaurant on the way there.