(Closed) etiquette phaleyur.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@murmur: People never cease to amaze me.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yep… My cousin sent her entire list of FB friends a message with registry info, but I certainly wasn’t invited to the shower (and neither were a majority of my family members who are on FB and received that message).

Klassy.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@murmur: Agreed. I’ve gotten so many shower (baby or wedding) invites in my FB inbox that I sometimes wonder when we send our invites in the mail…. will people even know how to open the envelopes? lol seriously thought, it DOES seem that inviting people has gotten more and more informal over networks like this. I’d much rather receive a cute card in the mail any day! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Freeloaders… wow.. I don’t know much about etiquette, but that is down right just trashy. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ugh. She’s probably going to live stream her birth online. Gross.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

So sorry! You are all going to think I am one of those “old folks” who don’t understand computers!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I didn’t even click the “submit” button once!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Dear me!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Weddingbee boards phaylur. Phah! See next post.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@SimplyChic11:

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting invitations in your Facebook message-box. It is when they are posted on someone’s Wall for the entire world to read, or created as an “event” that is set to “public” that it is in bad taste.

True, though, that such invitations are relatively informal. The thing is, though, that times change. I adore formalities: white heavy laid cotton card that screams “subdued quality” to the informed eye; the extra texture and slight glitter of the pigment in high-quality India ink (that really does require a proper pen since India ink will not flow through an ordinary fountain pen); the elegant handwriting of a hostess who can pull of a formal cursive hand. Being a dinosaur, I would much rather receive one of those in the mail any day, than a “cute card”.

I found an interesting thing, too. During the mail strike when I sent out invitations by Facebook and email, still using the formal language that I am used to, I got beautifully-worded formal replies very promptly, even from my teen-age and twenty-year-age guests. Marshall McLuhan to the contrary, the words themselves seem to have as much ability to convey formality as does the medium.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Whoops… that IS what I meant. I typically don’t receive these things in my inbox… BUT it is a pet peeve of mine to be invited to showers, etc in the form of an entire ‘wall’ dedicated to said shower. 

I don’t mind inbox but find being mass-invited via an ‘event’ kind of annoying. Just my 2 ‘pence. 

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