Post # 1
I have a question regarding some etiquette. When my Fiance and I got engaged in October we immediately asked certain people to be in our wedding party. We are planning on having our engagement party in January and the invitations have already gone out. The engagement party is only supposed to include close family and the bridal party, for a total of about 40 guests. Unfortunately one of the groomsmen just backed out today. My Fiance is going to ask a cousin to be a groomsman. This cousin was already invited to the engagement party, however, is it at all possible to un-invite the groomsman that backed out? He has already received his invite, but I don’t know what to do. There will be no other friends at the party – only friends are our bridal party. Do we suck it up and pay for him anyway?
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
I don’t think you can really uninvite him at this point without there being some drama. If he had any courtesy whatsoever, though, he wouldn’t attend the party after having backed out of being a Groomsmen.
Post # 4
Why did he back out? Was there a disagreement of sorts? At any rate, since he’s already received his invite, I would just suck it up and let him go. Maybe he won’t go now that he’s backed out?!
Post # 5
If he was important enough to be in the wedding, I’m sure he would be missed if we wasn’t at the engagement party. I say let him attend. Maybe he can do a reading or usher?
Post # 6
The “etiquette” of only bridal party and close family is not a hard rule. We held ours during a weekend where a lot of people come in town so it was great to have friends who we don’t get to see that often stop by and say congrats. Since e-party guests are not required (or “supposed to”) bring a gift its ok to invite more.
Post # 7
Well, my Fiance already told him that “we” would still like him to attend if he wanted to so I guess that settles that. Thank you as always for all your great advice!
Post # 8
Yeah I would keep him invited Im sure hell enjoy it and its just 1 extra person!