Post # 1
Need opinions or advice how to handle this situation: Is it appropriate for my husband’s best man to bring his sister (who is an ex gf of my husband) (we had a civil wedding last yr, with vow renewal/wedding this year same date in April) to our wedding as a guest, when the invitation was addressed specifically to the best friend, additionally, we informed our single friends if they were in a significant relationship they could bring their SO, if not the invite is just for them. My husband and I decided no ex’s at the wedding, and this girl had the audacity to ask her brother to bring her to his best friends wedding after she opened the invite not to her and signed the reply card. Now I had met this girl last year after we got engaged and she was incredibly jealous of me and was not happy to see him treating me so well. There is no jealousy from me regarding her, I just don’t think it is appropriate for her to come and be around our families, whom she has never met and celebrate something she doesn’t have maybe sincere reasons for being at. What do you think?
Post # 3
I don’t think it is unreasonable to extend plus ones to your wedding party. However, this just sounds weird.
#1 – he is not a date he is her sister
#2 – It seems odd that she wants to come so badly
#3 – She is an ex
I would get Fiance to talk to Bridesmaid or Best Man and explain the situation. I am sure he will understand. I bet he won’t even care if his sister comes or not!
Post # 4
No, and it has nothing to do with her being an ex or a sister. The invite was for the guy only. If it were the day of the original ceremony I would probably say all bridal party members should get a date, but I am assuming since this is a party later you wont have a lot of the typical items such as the head table, first dance etc so I dont think he needs a date. Its more party than reception.
Post # 5
No, no NO! Stand your ground.
This girl spells trouble if she invited herself and is an ex…
Post # 7
It sounds like it might create some awkwardness for her to be there. If you and your Darling Husband agreed to not having any exes there, then stick to that. Tell the Bridesmaid or Best Man that his sister is not invited.
Post # 8
i think it would be fine not to invite her. the invite was addressed to him, you have a rule about no guests unless their in significant relationship and you have a rule on no ex’s. you’d basically be changing all the rules for this one person, which just seems absurd.
Post # 9
There are two separate issues here. 1) She is an ex. 2) She was not invited, and is coming along as the guest of someone who was not given permission to bring a guest. On both counts you are perfectly within your rights to say she cannot come. You two agreed no exes. You also agreed that people could only bring a guest if they are bringing their significant other. She breaks both rules, so she can’t come. You and your Fiance need to put your collective foot down.
Post # 10
No. You have 3 rules and you would be breaking them all for this ex. I know you probably want to feel like the bigger person, but honestly this is your day and it is just not worth it. She sounds like pure drama to me.
Post # 11
ditto with everyone who posted before me, i think it’s just plain rude!
Post # 12
He was invited alone (which is perfectly acceptable given that he is not in an established relationship), so he doesn’t get to bring a +1. That the +1 is his sister and an ex are kind of beside the point.