(Closed) Etiquette regarding an invite?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it is unreasonable to extend plus ones to your wedding party. However, this just sounds weird.

#1 – he is not a date he is her sister

#2 – It seems odd that she wants to come so badly

#3 – She is an ex

I would get Fiance to talk to Bridesmaid or Best Man and explain the situation. I am sure he will understand. I bet he won’t even care if his sister comes or not!

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

No, and it has nothing to do with her being an ex or a sister. The invite was for the guy only. If it were the day of the original ceremony I would probably say all bridal party members should get a date, but I am assuming since this is a party later you wont have a lot of the typical items such as the head table, first dance etc so I dont think he needs a date. Its more party than reception.

Post # 5
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No, no NO! Stand your ground.

This girl spells trouble if she invited herself and is an ex…

Post # 6
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

tell him absolutely not.

Post # 7
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like it might create some awkwardness for her to be there. If you and your Darling Husband agreed to not having any exes there, then stick to that. Tell the Bridesmaid or Best Man that his sister is not invited.

Post # 8
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think it would be fine not to invite her.  the invite was addressed to him, you have a rule about no guests unless their in significant relationship and you have a rule on no ex’s.  you’d basically be changing all the rules for this one person, which just seems absurd.

Post # 9
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

There are two separate issues here.  1) She is an ex.  2) She was not invited, and is coming along as the guest of someone who was not given permission to bring a guest.  On both counts you are perfectly within your rights to say she cannot come.  You two agreed no exes.  You also agreed that people could only bring a guest if they are bringing their significant other.  She breaks both rules, so she can’t come.  You and your Fiance need to put your collective foot down.

Post # 10
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

No. You have 3 rules and you would be breaking them all for this ex. I know you probably want to feel like the bigger person, but honestly this is your day and it is just not worth it. She sounds like pure drama to me.

Post # 11
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

ditto with everyone who posted before me, i think it’s just plain rude!

Post # 12
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

He was invited alone (which is perfectly acceptable given that he is not in an established relationship), so he doesn’t get to bring a +1.  That the +1 is his sister and an ex are kind of beside the point.

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