(Closed) Etiquette Schmetiquette

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: SO tell me how you really feel about Etiquette

    I love it! and base my decisions accordingly

    There are some 'rules' important to me

    I do not follow any particular etiquette rules just went with what felt right to "us"

    My wedding is 100% Etiquette free

  • Post # 62
    2883 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I can’t think of any etiquette rules that we’re not following. We are the hosts of our own wedding, so technically it may be against etiquette for us to register for gifts, but it we did it anyway because our friends and family specifically told us that they would prefer it. We are bucking tradition on some things (such as not giving everyone a +1), but we haven’t broken any etiquette rules by doing so. 

    Post # 63
    533 posts
    Busy bee

    It pains be to see anyone describing ettiquette as dull and miserable.

    You can have a crazy-fun (even non-traditional!) wedding and still follow these basic guidelines. Ettiquette is PERSONAL — only you are determining your actions based on what exhibits good manners; no assumptions of others’ politeness or cultural values. To choose ettiquette for yourself is to simply hold the ‘role’ of host/hostess (or even as guest) in high regard, in my opinion.

    In that vein, I’m not bothered in the least if someone chooses to host an event differently. But when a snafu that could have easily been prevented with a seemingly-insignificant gesture arises, I appreciate the helpfulness of ettiquette all the more.

    Post # 64
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I care about etiquette because the second I invite people to an event I owe them the respect and courtesy of treating them in a  way that is appropriate.  For me, this is where etiquette comes into play.  Most things that are “against etiquette” are also just downright rude in general.  It’s pretty simple — don’t be gift grabby, don’t expect your guests to open their pockets at your wedding, take their comfort into account, etc.  It’s not about being prim and proper, just treating people well.

    Post # 66
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m happy to follow etiquette as long as it makes sense to me. I’m all in favour for anything that enhances guest comfort, but hopefully I shouldn’t need any rules in order to follow that, I should do it regardless. I will be breaking rules if they don’t work for me. For instance I’m not having a super formal wedding. Most of my friends are doctors as are Fiance and I, and according to various things I’ve read I should be addressing their invitations to Dr Firstname Lastname – they are my friends and I would never imagine calling them that, nor would I expect them to refer to me as Dr something (it gets even more confusing when you factor in I know several married couples who are both doctors)

    Post # 67
    3073 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @NearlyMrsRad:  It’s likely that the Etiquette you are distainful of is not etiquette at all, but are issues of culture or tradition.

    Etiquette is pretty simple. All of the other “thous shalts” are made up by moms and women on The Wedding Bee.

    What are 5 things that you think are required by Etiquette that you will not be doing?

    I do hope that you won’t be charging your guests for whatever refreshments you serve, that would be frowned on by rules of etiquette.


    Post # 70
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @NearlyMrsRad:  oh no! I just printed out all my address labels using transparent labels, not actually on the envelopes themselves, I was done in 5 minutes. 

    Post # 71
    524 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @mrsqueenb:  Ditto on the clear labels.  Made it a breeze.

    We also made people RSVP online…


    Post # 72
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @NearlyMrsRad:  See!!! There are people on here with logic 😉 While I don’t have guests coming from out of the country, I know a lot of them have children and animals  and flying your whole family across the country can be quite an expense so I thought the more time the better for planning :]

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