Post # 1
I’ve browsed this board for a while before joining tonight! My fiancé and I were engaged earlier this month. I’m over the moon excited and we have a venue booked and engagement photos are done. Things are going smoothly but there’s one little thing I’m not sure about…
So my parents didn’t have a traditional wedding or engagement. In fact, my father only recently bought my mom an engagement and wedding band set for their 30th anniversary (thanks to me!)
Anyway, my mom said something that made me doubt myself a bit. She said we can’t just make an appointment at a bridal salon and “try on dresses without buying anything.” She’s convinced that if we make an appointment, it would be rude/a waste of the sales associates’ time if we didn’t spend money.
Am I incorrect in believing that it’s okay to go to many different salons and try on all types of dresses without feeling pressure to buy? Do I have to tell them up front that we’re only looking and aren’t ready to purchase yet?
Post # 2
Moms are usually right but not this time! Of course you can go to as many bridal salons as you want and try on as many dresses as you want. I think I went to 3 different stores and probably tried on 15-20 dresses before going back to store #1 and buying dress #1 (true story!)
The stores and sales associates know that most brides spend at least one day out shopping all their options before committing to a dress. The good ones will provide the best possible customer service hoping they’ll be the store that helps you find your perfect dress.
Post # 3
futuremrsorlov : not only is it ok, but they expect you to do this! They’ll also give you their business card with the name and price of your 1-3 favorites at the end. Don’t feel bad! I went to 6-7 shops and tried on (I’m not kidding) 50+ gowns. It was a ball! Have fun with it!
Post # 4
No way, I went to about 6 stores and two I went to twice! Don’t get pressured into buying on the first day. By your mom I mean… Good sales assistants shouldn’t pressure you, none of mine did, they were all so lovely and helpful.
Post # 5
i think i went to 6 different stores.
Post # 6
The consultant told me that I should go to multiple stores and that they understand it’s a hard decision to make when you’re spending so much money on a dress that you wear once. She also told me when their next sale was.
So no, you shouldn’t buy from the first store you go too.
Post # 7
Perhaps where your mom is coming from is those people who are literally trying on for fun. Like I have heard of people not even engaged yet (some not even dating seriously) who go in and act like it is just a game of dress up going in for fun. That’s rude af- these are people working on commission who have wasted their time on someone living out a princess fantasy instead of someone genuinely interested in purchasing a dress.
So long as you aren’t doing that I think you are fine. Be upfront that you’re still in the early stages and researching what you want. I do think it is smart to at least do a little research ahead of time (these appointments aren’t that long) and I caution against trying on too many dresses overall because that tends to just make it harder in the decision making process. But there is nothing wrong with shopping around a bit. That said there is also nothing wrong with buying at the first store either – you like what you like and you may very well find it at the first store. You just don’t need to feel obligated at the first store – it isn’t rude to not buy anything. It is only rude if you go with the intent of wasting their time.
Post # 8
I agree with the prior posters. You can go to as many bridal salons as you would like and try on as many dresses as your appointment times permit while searching for a dress you love, and you should feel no obligation to buy from a particular salon.
However, what I think your mother could be confused about is this: Bridal salons don’t expect any particular bride-to-be to purchase a wedding dress on any given day from that particular store, but they DO expect that someone who is out and about trying on bridal gowns is truly in the market to purchase a wedding dress. What stores do not want to do is waste their time trying to help someone find a dress who isn’t actually going to purchase one at all. They love trying to help a bride-to-be find her gown, but they aren’t very happy when people who are not actually trying to find and buy a dress just want to play dress up with no intentions of buying anything at all from any store. I hope that makes sense.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
futuremrsorlov : Do not feel pressured to buy! If you find one that you love and want to buy it, awesome! If not, don’t cave with something that you don’t love. The associate should not pressure you to buy something you don’t love. Most bridal salons are completely understanding of this! Most associates really enjoy the process and want to make sure the bride is happy above all else.
ETA: If you want a little more reason to not feel pressured… check out the dress regret threads!
Post # 10
futuremrsorlov : it’s totally fine to go to more than one salon but I would not want to go to more than a couple (and I would aim for only one). It makes the decision a lot harder, more stressful, and confusing if you have that much to choose from. That’s just my thoughts.
Post # 11
You are not obligated to purchase a gown just because you made an appointment to try on dresses. Many women go to more than one boutique before making a decision.
Post # 12
I went to 6 different stores and ended up buying off Etsy. The only salespeople who were pushy and seemed disappointed I didn’t buy were at David’s Bridal, none of the other associates really cared that I didn’t buy anything. I’m sure at least half their appointments (or more) don’t end in a sale! So don’t feel bad in the slightest!
Post # 13
I went to several stores, and even went to one twice and even said yes to the dress, just to later regret my decision and I didn’t order that gown. The next place I went, the first dress I tried on was it! It is fun to try on several dresses, it’s something you (hopefully) only get to do once. It is good to even just go knowing you won’t purchase that day, because you can still get a good feel of the designs/styles you like.
Post # 14
futuremrsorlov : You can certainly try things on and not buy anything. You can even tell them it is your first time looking so you are unsure. If you dont find anything dont feel bad. You can always book an appointment later to look at accessories or veils there if you have a good experience but dont find the dress. My cousin worked at a bridal salon. They are used to people looking without buying. They will have about 4 appolintments and only 1 out of the 4 will a bride buy a dress etc.
Post # 15
Did your mom work in sales at any point? I see where she is coming from but there is a balanced approach to this…
The area where I live has about 10 bridal shops in a 10 mile radius. Do you need to visit all 10 stores? No, you don’t NEED to. Some brides feel inclined, and to each her own. You should be selective about where you shop and which dresses you try on to avoid confusion and exhaustion. Your mom and friends/family will at some point tire of going from shop to shop all weekend every weekend, and after about 25 dresses everything will look like a white blur.
Go online, determine what style you like. If you’re unsure of a silhouette, try on one of each, then narrow it down with each dress. You can try one “just for fun” but it would be a waste of time to play dress up in too many gowns that you know you would never wear.
Have fun shopping and be kind and considerate to your bridal party, family, and bridal consultant. They won’t mind you at all if you’re friendly.