Post # 1
A friend of mine asked the following and I have no lcue- so I thought I’d bring it to the hive…
What is the etiquette When most of the people from your office that you’ve invited to your wedding have just been laid off and you boss is still invited to a wedding that is 7 months away?
Do you still invite everyone? What about seating?
Post # 3
If they’ve already received Save-The-Date Cards, it seems rude not to follow up with the invite…if I were one of the laid off coworkers, I would probably just decline the invite if I’m not that close to the couple and I didn’t want to run into the boss that laid me off. Do you think they will all attend, based on the potential for awkward encounters?
Post # 4
What an unfortunate circumstance. But I agree that if yo’vealready sent STD’s or in someway indicated to them that they are invited, I would go ahead and invite them. Do they blame the boss? Are you still working there? You probably wouldn’t want to snub the boss. And the other folks might look forward to seeing you and each other, if they haven’t seen each other in a while because of the lay offs. They can always decline.
I think what’s most in your control, if they resent your boss, is to make sure they don’t really sit near the boss at the reception. That’s the best you can do. If everyone wants to boogy on the dance floor, they’ll probably behave like adults. Otherwise some folks might leave early. Part of me wants to think that if it is awkward, your boss, who has a job and probably feels guilty for the lay offs, would politely duck out early so the others can enjoy the evening. (Unless your boss is a jerk.)
Post # 5
I don’t have coworkers that have been laid off, but I have some coworkers that don’t get along. We sent them all an invite (all being 4) and if they don’t come, that is their choice. We’re also mixing up our seating so we don’t sit the coworkers that don’t get along at the same table. That’s really all you could do.
Post # 6
Thanks for the input so far!
The groom does still work there and no save the dates have been sent. So he is pretty much just deciding on whether or not to invite everyone or some of them. So he wanted to know what to do, if their is etiquette on it. I don’t think there is so I’m kind of just lookign for opinoin,s what would you do? I think eh has talked baout the weddign to the coworkers, but no sure if he actually implied anyone at work was invited.
I gave him my opinion, but thought I’d get a little mroe help/perspective!
Post # 7
If you guys haven’t sent out save the dates yet, then i don’t think you have an obligation to invite them. Depending on how big or small his company is, I would only invite those that he has a relationship outside of work with. Is he going to stay friendly and keep in touch with the coworkers who have been laid off? If not, then I don’t think you should feel obligated to invite them.
Post # 8
If you haven’t sent STD and your wedding is in 7 months you may not even want to invite the co-workers that have been laid off. Depending on if you do things with these co-workers outside of work, will you still be talking to them? Our company did a lot of layoffs in January and there were a few people I would’ve invited had they still been working there but not that i don’t see them everyday I don’t really talk with them a lot. I probably will end up not inviting them to the wedding – if there is room I would love to, but unfortuanely, I can’t invite everyone!