(Closed) Ettiquette question about thank you notes

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t know what’s “proper”, but I plan on sending a thank you for both the shower gifts and wedding gifts. I figure it’s best to err on the side on over-thanking than risk, people feeling unappreciated.

Post # 4
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

i always thought it was 2 diff parties, 2 diff gifts. I have always received 2.. even a third if there was an engagement party or if i sent an engagement gift. (i have already sent out some thank yous to people who got us stuff for an engagement gift..)

Post # 5
722 posts
Busy bee

You should absolutely send 2 different thank you cards.

Post # 6
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My bridal shower was Friday and my thank you notes are being sent today – I’m really anal-retentive about thank you notes. I would say to send one for each event.

Post # 7
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t know where you heard that it isn’t right to send 2 thank yous, but I think they’re wrong! You should absolutely send two cards. Two different parties, two different gifts, two different cards 🙂

Post # 8
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I’ve always been told that you should seperate thank you notes for the shower and the wedding. 

Post # 9
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

You should definitely send thank you notes for the shower as soon as you can and separate thank you notes for the wedding.

Post # 10
1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

Send both!

Post # 11
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Not just for etiquette purposes – but sending a thank you not now and later will actually be easier on you. I say this because that way you wont have to remember a few months down the road who got you what.

Post # 12
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Definitely send the thank you notes now, and then send a different batch after the wedding! It will be easier on you in the long run, and your guests will appreciate knowing you received their gifts.  I had a LOT of thank yous to do for my bridal shower (40+) and I can’t imagine trying to finish those while finishing the 200+ from my actual wedding right now…

Post # 14
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would send them right away since you have already opened the gifts.  I sent thank yous immediately just to be safe in case i didn’t forget, but I think that you should thank people for the bridal shower gifts before the wedding.

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