Post # 1
My BMs threw me a shower and had all the guests write their names and addresses on envelopes to make it easy for me to send thank you cards. (What a nice thoughtful thing for them to do!)
Should I send the thank you cards right away, or wait until after the wedding so I can thank them for whatever gift they give me at the wedding too? I heard you’re not supposed to send two thank you notes if they attended both the shower and the wedding.
Post # 3
I don’t know what’s “proper”, but I plan on sending a thank you for both the shower gifts and wedding gifts. I figure it’s best to err on the side on over-thanking than risk, people feeling unappreciated.
Post # 4
i always thought it was 2 diff parties, 2 diff gifts. I have always received 2.. even a third if there was an engagement party or if i sent an engagement gift. (i have already sent out some thank yous to people who got us stuff for an engagement gift..)
Post # 5
You should absolutely send 2 different thank you cards.
Post # 6
My bridal shower was Friday and my thank you notes are being sent today – I’m really anal-retentive about thank you notes. I would say to send one for each event.
Post # 7
I don’t know where you heard that it isn’t right to send 2 thank yous, but I think they’re wrong! You should absolutely send two cards. Two different parties, two different gifts, two different cards 🙂
Post # 8
I’ve always been told that you should seperate thank you notes for the shower and the wedding.
Post # 9
You should definitely send thank you notes for the shower as soon as you can and separate thank you notes for the wedding.
Post # 11
Not just for etiquette purposes – but sending a thank you not now and later will actually be easier on you. I say this because that way you wont have to remember a few months down the road who got you what.
Post # 12
Definitely send the thank you notes now, and then send a different batch after the wedding! It will be easier on you in the long run, and your guests will appreciate knowing you received their gifts. I had a LOT of thank yous to do for my bridal shower (40+) and I can’t imagine trying to finish those while finishing the 200+ from my actual wedding right now…
Post # 13
I had kinda thought it would be better to send thank-yous for both as well. I’m glad other people have the same opinion! I’ll write these up and send them out right away!
Post # 14
I would send them right away since you have already opened the gifts. I sent thank yous immediately just to be safe in case i didn’t forget, but I think that you should thank people for the bridal shower gifts before the wedding.