(Closed) eugh not looking forward to christmas at all…this year with the future inlaws

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@newname_99:  That would drive me nuts, too, honestly.  10 days!  That is quite a long time to be away from home, I’d hate it in a place that had nothing to do but sit around with the IL’s, even though mine are great, that would be sssooo boring.  Not to mention you don’t speak the language.  You’re not being selfish at all, you’re being really sweet about it.

Is there a way you can spend part of the time with your Fiance traveling to another area that’s more entertaining?  If not, I’d bring a ton of books, dvd’s, etc., to help pass the time.  Or try to spend it learning the language to make it more interesting, lol.  🙂  Maybe learn some new recipes!  Cooking is always fun. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He just decided this?  You don’t get any input?  That doesn’t seem fair.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@newname_99:  Can you not spend a few days at a resort? I’m sorry – this would drive me crazy, too.

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Sunfire:  “Is there a way you can spend part of the time with your Fiance traveling to another area that’s more entertaining?”

I think that’s a really good idea.  Depending on where their town is perhaps you can do little day trips to other areas for sight seeing?  Or maybe you can cut down the trip to the in-laws to 6-7 days and visit somewhere else in Mexico for a few nights; you can suggest an interesting area near by and suggest working that into your trip.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@newname_99:  I would be super annoyed if I was you too. Epecially about the no english tv..I would die of boredom! How about bringing some movies with you or a tv series on dvd to watch while you are there..or a few good books. It does suck that you dont get a say in this at all but I guess because you spent the last holiday with your parents he thinks it is ok

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Aww! That does sound like it’ll be very boring and frustrating. Do you do any kind of crafts at all? I remember when I used to spend long, boring winter breaks from college at my parents’ house, I’d bring a bunch of knitting supplies or origami paper and work on a big project to keep occupied. It’s also a good excuse for a little alone time when all the togetherness becomes overwhelming – just be like, “Going to go work on that scarf I’m making! See y’all in a bit!” 

Are day trips an option? Maybe spend a day at the beach or something like that? 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I totally get being in one place and craving the pleasures of another, but falling in love with a place and the people in it takes time…avail yourself to it and you might just surprise yourself.

There’s this magical thing about being the odd one out at gatherings like this…no one is paying attention to you!  Which means, you can pretty much come and go as you like, and no one is going to notice, at all.  I would make sure to have my ipod loaded with awesome music, treat myself to morning and afternoon walks with my tunes, take in the scenery, people watch and generally enjoy the sensation of just being there.  Charge your camera, see what kind of interesting pictures you get, maybe a travelogue album for your honey when you get home, showing him the things you saw while you were there would be a cool thing for you both.

And finally, this is my soundest and best advice, so take it and remember it always…when it doubt, go for the oldest yet still with it person in the room.  Odds are good they know more about life than you’ve ever forgotten, are more patient, understanding and interesting than anyone else there and they will work harder to communicate with you because they value the interaction more.  Trust me, you’ll be the shining star of the visit if you and abuela have your afternoon tea & talk sessions away from the rest of the fam…and you might gain more comfort with the language…you know?

Either way, super big hugs & lots of luck!

Post # 15
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Newbee

My SO is mexican and I look forward to going to mexico this year. My advice; Keep busy! Lol. My SOs family is from Zacatecas and they live on a ranch. I love riding horses, learning to cook. Everything is always a party. Go sight see maybe? Not sure what youre limited to but make the best of it. 🙂 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

yay! I am glad that you are feeling better about it. I think that learning about his family and maybe getting a cooking lesson would be a huge plus too! Any one that learns his grandma’s special whatever is amazing and cooking is a universal language so it should be easier to communicate.

Plus the knitting and reading thing sound great- a week in a hopefully pretty country setting to hang out and read and relax. Maybe bring some spa type stuff (nailpolish, hair mask) and give yourself a little mini spa?

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