- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Okay, this isn’t a post about how I hate kids. I promise. I have 9 part-time kids (nieces, nephews, cousins) that I babysit and that crack me up and I love them dearly for it.
But my SO and I are getting to that age where we are starting to see our peers having children. And to be honest, it weirds me out. Like a lot.
I mean, I keep expecting to see these people with their kids barefoot and dirty and emaciated and behaving badly but no! No, these are clean, healthy, well-behaved children that our peers are raising! Holy crap! They’re good parents!
And yet, every time SO and I talk about it– we both stand united that yes, we want to adopt one day and be good parents too but there is no way in hell that we are ready for it right now. I mean, we can hardly keep the plants alive.
And travel, oh yes, we want to travel to places like Africa and South America and Pakistan (mission and DWB and Red Cross) and well, you just can’t really bring children to those places (you can, but I wouldn’t want to).
I mean, the desire for children is there but….not now, not for us. And so when we see people our age carting around their three children and y’know….actually liking it.
It’s a bit of a culture shock. None of our good friends have children or are TTC and so we just can’t imagine anyone else our age actually HAVING BABIES ON PURPOSE.
I guess what I’m asking is does anyone else feel this way when they start seeing their peer group having children? I mean, I know a lot of people on this board who are trying to concieve but is there anyone who is actively trying not to concieve and can’t relate at all?
Gosh, I hope that made sense.