(Closed) Eugh….kids.

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I kind of feel that way but am starting to open up a bit more to it… Can I ask how old you are?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ha! I know the feeling. The moment I started feeling old was when people my age started having kids and I could no longer say “they’re way too YOUNG to have kids!” The reality is that people my age (I don’t know how old you are, but I’m sure this applies to you, too), just have kids! That’s what they do! BUT that doesn’t mean that I have to be ready to have kids right now! And it sure doesn’t have to mean that you are ready to have kids just because people around you are having them!

Don’t feel pressured into having children just because of your age. Have children if and when you are ready to have children!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

How old r y’all?? i assume y’all are in your 30s. well you’d be surprised to know i have two kids and im 26…gasp!! Don’t feel pressured to have kids…its a lifetime commitment that should not be taken lightly.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It’s only been in the last year that I haven’t reacted.  I lost a lot of friends in my mid-20s when a bunch settled down and had kids.  Now that I am 29 another grouping of friends is getting married and most them plan to TTC within the next year or two.  We are pretty much on the same page, partly because we’re ready and partly because we know that once these friends have kids we will inevitably lose contact with them unless we too have kids.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I’m almost 30 and I don’t currently want kids. I LOVE my nephews and nieces dearly and would do anything for them and love spoiling them but after they leave my house I am exhausted and just want to sleep. I cannot currently imagine being a parent because I love my sleep and not having to share SO with anyone but our pets. Selfish? Yes but at least I admit it and know that no matter what pressure people put on me or what others are doing, we’ll know when it’s right for us, if ever!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m 31 and have 3 kids, 11, 7 and 3.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It is definitely weird to see my friends doing grown-up things: having kids, holding stable jobs, buying a house, etc. I keep thinking we’re too young for this stuff and then I realize, no, we’re late twenties, this is when that all starts to happen.

That said, I had my little one at 22. So I started a bit early, ha. But everyone’s catching up to me now and I can totally understand why it feels strange to you.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@SockJunkie:  Yes, the more I am around our friends with kids, the less we want any. We don’t want our lives to revolve around our kids which is seemingly inevitable.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@SockJunkie:  DH and I are in our early 30s and have no plans to start having kids soon.  All of our friends got started young having kids (well, young in my opinion).  Sometimes it’s a little weird that most of our friends have 3-5 kids and we have zero, but that’s the way we like it, so we’re happy!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

When a friend tells me they’re pregnant, I get… disappointed. Sometimes I can’t picture some of them with kids!!! The thought of having a kid, dealing with all that crap and anoyingness… just freak me out right now. I am almost 30 and I still don’t want  them for a while. They can be such social-life ruiners! It’s so weird and I feel like an awful person!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@SockJunkie:  I know what you mean… it’s that whole identity crisis you go through in your mid to late 20’s when you realize, holy crap, i’m an ADULT. For me, it’s not just about the kids either. For instance, I ran into one of my sorority sisters when I was floating to another unit at the hospital. She was the Attending MD. The only thing I could think was… you are in charge of the medical care for all these patients, you teach and advise all these other doctors who are making life and death decisions… and the last time I saw you (8 years ago), you were stoned and grubbing on $2 pizzas. Damn.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Get this: There were maybe 8 girls in the graduating class before me and I’m pretty all but one had kids within 2 years (from a very small town)! How’s that for peers having kids! I’m 23 now and its been five years since I graduated a few from my graduating class have children (some more than one) as well. So now most girls I know from highschool have toddlers or kids in pre-school. Mind blowing.  

Just this past Christmas I had family members asking when I would have kids “finally” :/ I don’t understand it. It’s deifnitely an odd kind of unnessary pressure since we are definitely young (and both of us are still in University). 

(that all being said, I have crazy baby fever, I feel bad for my poor Fiance who very nicely, and kindly endures me showing him pictures of nurseries, HA!). I keep praying FI’s older brother has another child soon as I believe they are ttc and it’ll help ward off the baby fever that I have caught. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Definitely unsettling. FH and I are oddball types, and we aren’t planning on having kids at all. We both love kids, and we’d be open to them if we had more time, more money, and more goals already accomplished, but the reality is that our requirements to have one are unlikely to ever happen, at least while we’re both fertile, so the decision is basically a “no, never.”

I have a friend who just had her second kid and it’s definitely weird. 

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