(Closed) European vs Rest of World views on other partners?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do different cultures have different views of exclusivity and marriage?
    Yes I think different cultures (European or other) have more open views on marriage : (38 votes)
    45 %
    No, I think it's pretty similar : (41 votes)
    48 %
    Other - please comment : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Where on earth in Europe are they from?!

    Post # 4
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Europe is a pretty big place, and there’s A LOT of different cultures that are encompassed in that.  

    Different cultures do view marriage differntly; but it’s not fair to generalize by saying an entire continent feels one way or another about it. 

    Post # 7
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I minored in French in college, and this was something we discussed a lot, because these cultural differences show up in French literature. Apparently the traditional marriage in France was more of a business partnership than the romantic love that Americans think of, someone from a similar socioeconomic background as yourself, that is a social unit and family. But it was really common to have someone on the side to satisfy passionate/sexual needs.

    I was told that this system is becoming less common in France at least, and in the younger generations there are people marrying more for romantic love and not seeking it outside the marriage. Like I said though, I am not French, all of this is just stuff I got from my French professors in college (many of who were either French or lived in France for a long time) and reading it in traditional French literature.

    Post # 9
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m certain somewhere in the world married men are allowed to be, and possibly even encouraged to be promiscous while married woman would be shit dead (perhaps literally) if she does the same. In that culture the norms are different therefore I conclude there are VERY different interpretations of marriage/ sex between cutltures.


    Post # 11
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @westcoast:  Where in Europe? Lol. My boyfriend is English and he definitely does not share this view. I’m half Eastern European and we don’t share this view either!

    Post # 12
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m French and I can totally assure you that we’re getting married out of love ! lol

    What @chemistrybride said is very true though but no longer the case.

    Post # 15
    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    It’s certainly a whole other experience on The Continent, that’s for sure!  I don’t know if it would work for me, but then again, you have to take into account how very OLD that place is, and the fact that those societies were built on families with arranged marriages and political conquest in mind, so it kind of makes sense that having a mistress would be a foregone conclusion…

    I mean, if it’s 1832 and you just married this broad for her Dad’s land and let’s be honest, she’s a horse faced, inbred peice of aristrocratic crap whose interests are limited to hand fans and how tall she can get her hair in the morning…that tasty maid who brings the milk in is probably going to start lookin PRETTY good…so you’ve got your wife (yay) and then you’ve got the maid, until you get bored with her and then it’s on to the cook staff….it really is the definition of having your cake and eating it too and let’s not forget that our horse-faced wife was most likely playing kissy-face with some gorgeous fop part of the time, and the captain of husband’s guard the other half…it worked out.  And while it’s a complete effront to our idea of romantic love in a modern setting, it’s not surprising that the children of these people, and their children carry the same idea forward, because that’s what they saw growing up.

    I know it’s not that midevil anymore, but you gotta hand it to the French, the Swedish, the Swiss and the English…they’re friends with their ex-wives, have family gatherings without drama and kind of just understand that sometimes you fall out of love with each other, but can still be in each other’s lives…I admire it.

    Post # 16
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @westcoast:  Most definitely and people were not allowed to divorce. I mean, you could but you’d get pointed at for it.

    That doesn’t mean people don’t have affairs on the side nowadays but I truly don’t think this is related to where you come from.

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