(Closed) Euw!!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

That is a huge no-no in my book! My sister-in-law did that and I couldn’t believe her friends actually went! I would be so offended. Just politely decline. I don’t think you’re still expected to pitch-in for bachelorette party costs or to send a gift for the shower.

Post # 5
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5179 posts
Bee Keeper

Maybe she still wanted to extend the invite?

1. She threw her own shower? You were prob on “the list” and her friends sent you the invite, no?

2. Am I the only one who never knew that Bach parties required gifts?

Post # 7
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The nice person in me wants to think that you were most likely on the original guest list so who ever organized the bach party and shower probably just slipped up.

The not so nice person thinks that she might have heard that according to etiquette, you are required to send a gift if you are invited to a shower even if you can’t attend. But then again, she doesn’t seem too familiar with wedding etiquette.

Post # 9
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5179 posts
Bee Keeper

@Mrs. Meowerson: oh ok! I thought the bach party was included in the gift grabby thing! Maybe it was an old list and when she came to your name for the std and invite she remembered you already said no? -I am just trying to think of alternitives because OBVIOUSLY no one would expect to not invite someone to their wedding and assume they will send gifts for other things

Post # 10
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2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs. Meowerson: oh no! Maybe she’s hoping you might be able to come to the wedding after all? Have the Wedding invites already gone out?

People in my community tend to invite EVERYONE to the shower. I was at my parents’ house while they were out and a family friend called to ask for their correct address and then asked me if I wanted to come to the shower, I am definitely not invited to the wedding. I guess she was being trying to be nice and extend an invitation since I answered the phone.

Of the 15 or so showers that I have been to only one was for someone where I was invited to the wedding. I go for the food and company with my mom!

Post # 14
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5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Euw indeed!

I have another Euw to share – I was invited to a girls wedding (who I don’t really know very well,but she asked if I would go and I said yes) so anyway I came down with a bad stomach bug and missed the wedding. So I had plans to get her address & mail her the gift w/ a card explaining why I missed the wedding. WELL, I get a message from her this morning saying we were dissappointed (which is fine) but then goes on to say “we spent X amount of dollars for you & your husbands’ food & favors to be there & you weren’t” I don’t know about yall, but I thought that stating the number & calling someone out for missing your wedding, was Euw indeed!

Post # 15
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Euw is right! That is rude.

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