Evening bonfire by the lake + wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
1362 posts
Bumble bee

Sounds fun. You just might want to check that the campground is okay with you having that many visitors, if they can accomodate parking, rules for quiet hours, and their rules for alcohol. 

Post # 3
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

darkwater67 :  I would love that as a guest because it sounds relaxing and chilled out! Especially, if your guests are “evening by the lake people” I think they will enjoy it as well. 

Just make sure you have enough food, beverages, and seats and you will be fine. Wedding planning is stressful, so if you are comfortable with a non-traditional wedding, I think you will be very happy!

It sounds romantic and intimate to me!  

Post # 5
5916 posts
Bee Keeper

Your plans sound so awesome that I’m jealous! 

My only concern would be the weather- do you have a back up plan for rain? Is it do-able at your house if necessary? 

Tree lights sound perfect. I would leave these as the decorations. 

For you and your daughter and other Bridesmaid or Best Man I would choose simple pretty flowers for casual bouquets- wildflowers or sunflowers or daisies. 

Sparklers would add an inexpensive festive touch- and if you live in North America, they’re available everywhere right now with both Canada Day & the 4th of July coming up. Just make sure these don’t violate campground rules (I don’t think they would fall into the firecracker category but better to be sure). Have a steel bucket filled with water or sand for people to put them in when finished. 

Another optional idea: A few bottles of champagne or a bottle two of something suited to shots (like Baileys or Tequila Rose). You can get plastic champagne or shot glasses at the dollar store. Ditto the sparklers. 

I love your plans Bee, my only concern would be rain. 

lol and tell your cutely enthusiastic fiance to chill on the invites before you have 200 people turn up! 

Post # 6
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Sounds amazing to me, and you definitely don’t need all the checklists of the “traditional” stuff.  One random thought I had was citronella torches?  I don’t know how bad the mosquitoes get there, but it would have the double benefit of keeping them at bay and also adding a little firelight, which is always a nice ambiance.

Post # 7
6273 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d have someone in to oversee the catering.  As others have said just make sure it’s all a-ok with the site and you have a clean up team in place.

lots of food and booze and all will be well 🙂

(veggie burgers if you have any veggie guests?) 

sparklers would be fun and make lovely photos.

get a load of blankets from ikea or something for people to bundle up in if it gets chilly later on.  

Are you having music and dancing? Again check with site regarding rules for this. 

As a guest it sounds brilliantly relaxed and fun. 

Post # 8
929 posts
Busy bee

I love the idea! Sounds great! I think the difference between a camping trip and your wedding would be that you should provide all the food though and not have friends bring sides. Maybe find some nicer plates, utensils, plastic glasses (could still be throw away), add some flowers around the site for a romatic flare. Just up the ante a bit with some extra wedding decor and I think it would be fantastic. Something like this….



Post # 9
7002 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My two concerns are weather and food.

Will you have some sort of backup plan in case it rains? A tent? Pavilion?

It sounds like you’re going for a super casual vibe, and I’m all for that. I’d be happy to eat burgers or hot dogs and hang out by a campfire. It’s great that normally everyone else brings sides but this isn’t a casual friend get-together, this is your wedding, that YOU are hosting. For that reason I think you should provide all the food yourself. I’d be a little irritated to be invited to a wedding with 30-50 people and have to bring a side. You’re basically asking me to pay to come to your wedding. Plus there’s dealing with transportting it, and keeping it cold/hot, food safety, etc. 

I get where you’re coming from with your vision, but if you want casual I’d maybe look into some local BBQ restaurants. A lot of them tend to cater off site (I’m a wedding photographer, I’ve had some of my nicest weddings be catered by BBQ and it can be amazing!) and are usually really affordable.

As for the wedding aspect I’d plan your ceremony, and if you’re going to have dancing you’ll likey want to invest in a DJ. With the whole campfire atmosphere I honestly don’t think you’ll really need to PLAN much other than decor. People will most likely naturally migrate their way to the campfire.

Post # 10
2041 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Are you asking friends and family to bring sides? 

Post # 12
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I love the bonfire idea. Also agree with you about the atmosphere. If you start with catering, fancy decor and DJ now its turning from a casual hangout with friends to an event. Personally, I would prefer the hangout. 🤗 Your friends are used to this kind of environment, your timing doesn’t require a full meal and you have a plan B just in case. Perfect! I would show up in the dress and get the ceremony out of the way then change. If its 10 min or less I don’t think your crowd would mind standing but seats are always appreciated.

Post # 13
1747 posts
Bumble bee

darkwater67 :  Ooh! Loving this idea! I’d get ready at your house, you can snap a couple of photos with your family/bridesmaids getting ready. I would probably have the ceremony no earlier than 6 (my June wedding was at 7:30pm and we went right inside to dinner. I didn’t feel it was too late at all!). If it’s hot that day, it gives it time to cool off, or makes for enough time earlier in the day to do Plan B if it rains. I’d maybe look into catering chairs for your guests for the ceremony only. If you want music, I’d just stick with an ipod on shuffle and a portable speaker – skip the dj. I also like the idea of a local bbq place catering in – unless you have a relative who would be willing to do that, some families love to be able to participate any way they can – you’re really not going to want to be in charge of everything, you’ll want to be able to bounce around with your friends for a bit. Unless your future husband is super set on grilling it himself. (I’d see if dad, or Future Father-In-Law could do it, honestly.) Also, I’d find out about the campgrounds bug control. June, and if you’re by a lake, and in the evening, could get buggy! As them if they do any kind of spraying, and if not, I’d definitely consider ways to cut down on that. Lemongrass, rosemary, catnip, lavendar – plants like this cut down on mosquitos – if you’re going for a naturalist look, you could always incorporate them into your flowers. I’m pretty obsessed with lavendar and my next wedding (I’m unfortunately divorced now) I am going to be all about the lavendar!

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