Post # 1
So I’ve been working for my company since January. Lovely wee team of 5 (2 of which have only been there 6 months)
I am getting married about 140 miles away but I’d love to invite them to my reception. I’m a bit shy but I’d love to invite them to the evening do. Firstly what would you do? And do you think a wee informal email is tacky or appropriate seeing as some of them I suppose I don’t know so well?
Post # 2
Are you in the US? If so I would invite them to the whole thing not just the reception. I’d send a proper invite. You could email them to ask for their address and why.
If not in the US, in not sure what’s usual.
Post # 3
Go ahead if you want to invite them, I think it would be a lovely gesture! But I would bring them all formal invitations at work (if you don’t want to ask for their mailing addresses), I don’t think an email is appropriate invite for a wedding reception.
Also just to respond to what PP said, I’m assuming you are in the UK, where it is very normal to just invite people to the reception. If not, depending on the local norms where you are living, you might want to consider inviting them to the whole thing.
Post # 4
Invite them if you like, personally I would give them a formal invitation at work. Also like PP, perhaps consider inviting them to the ceremony + reception if you are inviting them at all?
Post # 5
A good general guideline is to only invite co- workers with whom you have a social relationship outside work. If you don’t invite them to your home, you need not invite them to your wedding.
If you do decide to invite them, they should be treated like any other potential guest and be sent a proper invitation that includes their SO’s.
Post # 6
Just FYI, when a bride mentions an “evening do,” it’s a pretty safe bet that she is from the UK. The little X on the last line is another giveaway (same with xx or xxx at the end of a post/email). Closing message in that way is something a lot of Brits do, and very few non-Brits.
british weddings can last 14 hours or more, and it’s common and acceptable to invite acquaintances to the “evening do” only, with closer friends and family getting invites to the ceremony and the “wedding breakfast” (very fancy luncheon/dinner after the ceremony).
OP— if you say you’d love to invite them, then do it. Give them a real paper invite. Evening do only would be fine (I’d personally find it weird to get an invite to a co-worker’s ceremony).
Post # 7
Invite them if you want to! I’m sure they’ll be thrilled. Give them a proper invitation like the other guests though. Tiered weddings vary by culture so I’m assuming inviting people to the reception only is appropriate where you are.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Gloucestershire, UK
We’re in a very similar situation 🙂
Both FH and I are part of small-ish teams (16 for him, 8 for me). We’re getting married about 50 miles from home (approx. 1hr 15mins drive) and have decided to invite our work colleagues to the evening.
We’re having a weekday wedding, so it’d be impossible for everyone to come to the day. FH has invited a couple he sees socially from work to the whole thing, and the rest to the evening only. As our wedding is a bit closer to home than yours, we’re probably going to put on a mini-bus from town for around 6pm to bring them all over and then return them at the end of the night.
I would absolutely invite them! The only thing I would say to be mindful of, is the location. 140 miles is a bit too far to travel for a wedding without staying over, and I likely wouldn’t stay over for just an evening do. But, you know your guests best! Perhaps you could help them arrange some car sharing and find a great deal on a local hotel to cut down costs?
I would however give them a proper invite. We got some super cute evening save the dates made especially for our evening guests, but will give them normal invites when the time comes (just with extra info like minibusses etc).
If you don’t want do give them all their own invite, you could always pin one up in a communal area, and then send an email around?