(Closed) ever chased a man and it work out?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@gut_feeling:  now this was just my experience so please no flames thrown at me but yes i have chased a man i was very interested in and it didn’t work out for me.

if there not interested from the start and you chase them to the point of giving in and giving you a chance the right feelings were not there from the start. i’m sure it can grow into something but for me it didn’t.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We met while I was on a three month study abroad trip.  We flirted for a few weeks, but I got tired of not knowing for sure, especially since I wasn’t going to be there for much longer, so I took a chance told him I liked him.  Then the language barrier got in the way and there was a big misunderstanding (he said “I’m seeing someone” when he meant to say “Would you like to go out?”).  It worked out though, despite long distance and a lot of struggle with each other’s languages, and we’re still together four years later, and getting married later this year.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I chased my boyfriend for about 3 months. Most of my exs started from me telling them I liked them. As you can tell I don’t believe girls should wait around for guys to make a move. 

I’ve been with my boyfriend 16months and counting πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

It never worked out for me. It felt so good to be equally pursued by my now FI! πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I am waiting on the guy I chased proposing!!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, I did that a few times when I was 18-19 pursuing guys, and it just didn’t work out. Turns out they were the type that wanted girls to chase them and they were major players.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes and I am married to him. Although it was a bit more involved than me “chasing” him.

We were in grad school together and I wanted him to ask me out so I tried all the tricks in the book to get him to ask me out. I would sometimes get a vibe that he liked me and then I wouldnt so I was super confused.

Turns out (after I changed a class so I could have another class with him) I had to ask him to dinner after 9 months of failure on my part to get him to ask me out. The first time ever I asked someone out.

I learned that for some unknown reason he thought I was married which is why he never asked me out. Ill never forgive him for thst stupid belief. We wasted 9 months.Wink

Although in hind sight it was probably good for me because I would have lost interest without that chase. I never like people for long before him. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ThreeMeers:  ahhh this sounds just like me and my FI! although he did FINALLY ask me out after i told his friend to tell him to. hahaha so i just barely got out of asking him. i also lose interest really fast, so i too think it was for the best.

he is soo shy and really was just afraid of rejection. i was always a big believer in “he’s just not that into you”, and thought that being shy was just an excuse.  i wish i had just asked him out, because we wasted almost a year playing this game.  once we went on the first date, he did all of the initiating. i waited for him to contact me, ask me on the second date, etc. but i did pursue him more at the beginning.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

can’t say I ever have or ever would chase a man. If he’s into me great if he’s not than I’m not into him anymore either!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@gut_feeling:  I chased him up to the point where he knew I was interested. When he knew I was interested, he asked me out and things progressed from there.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I chased my ex. It worked, but the relationship ultimately did not. We stayed together 2 years too long (almost 5 years total). But it did work the first 3 years and was a good relationship and experience overall.

My current boyfriend, however, kinda chased me — however, we met online and I was the one who messaged him. I found on dating sites like Okcupid, women rarely approach men first so those who do can pique a guy’s interest just on the basis of actually hearing from a woman first vs. having to do it. I’d get to a point where if I viewed a guy’s profile and he viewed back a few times, I’d just go ahead and message him. Usually, it worked out (and it led me to my wonderful BF).

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