(Closed) Ever feel BAD for having a WEDDING?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

as long as you can afford it, you shouldn’t regret your wedding. did you tell your fi that you’ve always dreamed of the beautiful dress and gorgeous pictures? he probably just doesn’t understand the emotional aspect of the wedding, because he’s a man and probably never dreamed about his wedding as a little boy.

you have no reason to regret your wedding. it’s definitely worth it! explain your feelings to fi, and i’m sure he’ll understand.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The closer it gets to the wedding the more I start having similar feelings.  I think that as long as you aren’t spending an outrageous amount that is causing huge financial problems in your life, and that you are doing what you want thats all that matters.

Post # 6
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

thats how i feel sometimes! but i think is normal, but you should get what you can afford

Post # 7
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our wedding is still many months out.  Everyday i tell my Fiance that at any point he wants to back out and go elope, i am perfectly ok with cutting our losses on deposits, etc and just doing that.

There are so many other things we could be doing with this money such as home improvements or paying his student loans.  There are also starving children in the world and I paying $50 per person for dinner.  It just seems wrong.

He hasnt taken me up on it yet…

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re trying to stick to a small budget of around $7-8k for about 70 people and there are days when that still feels like a ridiculously huge amount of money to spend on one day. Not to mention how stressed out I am trying to plan it all. So yes, some days I definitely wish we had decided to just elope. But I know I’d end up regretting not sharing our day with our closest friends and family.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Eh, I don’t regret having a wedding… but I do get annoyed by it at times. Don’t get me wrong, it’s going to happen. But family is so annoying about it and everyone has opinions and wants to control it. It would be easier if they would just be quiet a listen to my ideas. That’s my experience for what it’s worth.

I don’t think it’s too inconvenient for your mom to fly to Japan for your wedding day. Just tell her you really want her to be there. Goodluck!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I started to regret it once it was “too late”; deposits had been made.  I didn’t really see an alternative for us to begin with though so we stuck with it.  I got through it and I totally think it was worth all the hard work and stress because it was such a great day!  Not that everything went perfectly, because it never does, but that we had the wedding that we wanted.  Yes it was on a budget, and we had to say no to some things, but all the important things were there: us getting married and our family and friends to celebrate with.

@iheartnerds: i also didn’t want to regret not having a wedding.  i knew we both wanted a wedding, so we made it work on our budget.

@adw2c: maybe you can have a celebration later in the U.S. with more of your family and friends?  you’re in a tough situation.  all i can say is try to focus on the positive: you do have some family and friends going.  also, i think it’s really important for you and your Fiance to make time for each other.  i know it seems like there’s no time, especially only 2 months away, but you’re seeing the effects of not making time.  a little quality time goes a long way.  have a date night where you don’t even talk about the wedding.  you probably need a break too from the planning.  it’ll be time well spent for both of you and for your relationship. =)

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I’ve been following your posts for a while and I’m sorry to hear about his change! 🙁  Hang in there, tell him it’s simply what you’ve always dreamed of and stick it out.  Plus, I REALLY think you should apply to be a BEE if you have any time to blog.  I LOVE your posts and the pics and your style are such a breath of fresh air!!

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